Ways To Deal With Heartbreak; Even When It Hurts Really Bad.

Being heartbroken sucks, like really sucks, but it is inevitable. Everyone will have their heartbroken so let's talk about the ways to deal with it when it does eventually happen.

There is no need to rush things.

You don't need to immediately delete every single memory you have of your ex. It's going to really hurt having to go through your pictures and delete the one's of you and your partner so take it slow. Whenever you're feeling relatively okay go through your pictures and delete 10 or 15 at a time. The key is you don't have to do it all at once, do everything at your own pace.

It is okay to cry but, it is also okay not to cry.

When you have your heart broken whether it by by a romantic partner, a family member, or a friend you are going to feel many different emotions. You have to let yourself feel those emotions in order to feel better. So if you feel like crying, cry it out. Or if you feel like screaming, take the nearest pillow and scream into it as hard as you can. Things will get worse before they get better, but I promise things will get better, it's a little cliche but, it is true.

Keep yourself active.

The second my partner and I had called it quits I joined a gym. Honestly, I hate working out but it gave me something to do. Whenever I caught myself bored, lonely, or just sad I drove to the gym. Now, I'm not trying to convince you to get a gym membership but find something that keeps you busy. Keeping your mind occupied is super important so try painting, writing, or maybe even knitting.

Remember the good and the bad.

It is okay to think about your relationship once in awhile. I mean if you were in a relationship with someone you must have had some good times however, you also need to remember why it ended. There's always reasons why things come to an end and when you are thinking about your person also think about why you aren't in that relationship anymore.

Don't forget to care for yourself.

After being hurt you might not feel the need to get up, get dressed, and get ready , but in the end you have to. Whether it is just brushing your teeth or changing your clothes every step counts. Self care is everything so go get that new clay face mask and that pair of shoes you've been wanting. Also the first time you get dressed up after a heart break you will feel like the baddest b*tch ever. So keep taking those baby steps until you feel like yourself again, and don't worry you will eventually.

Stop being scared of being alone.

Being alone may seem very scary at first. No one really likes being alone but once you start enjoying alone time your whole mentality will change. Going to the store, taking a walk, or driving around by yourself is more refreshing then it may seem. Become friends with yourself and, enjoy spending time with you. Obviously, keeping friends close is important but it's never a bad thing to be independent.

Focus on what you want.

When you're in a relationship with someone else it may seem like all you were doing was trying to please them. You put your want's and needs aside so that you could experience the things they wanted to experience but, what about you? write down all the things you have been wanting to do and go do them! Make your own goals and plans and finally do what you want to do. If you've been wanting to dye your hair a crazy color, go do it! If you want to go travel, the go do it! There is nothing holding you back so start living for you.

Finally, I want to remind everyone that everything will be okay

Right now this heart break might seem like the end of the world, and even though it is okay to feel that way, it is not true. Healing isn't linear but it will happen. Heart breaks are okay and ultimately they teach us lessons and give us memories and opportunities we might have never had. Being in love is something special to come across and it is also okay for things to end, everything has it's own timeline and purpose. So take your time, feel all the feelings, and go be the independent person you were born to be!