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Take our quiz to find out your communication style. (Questions adapted from University of Oxford)

Are You A Passive, Assertive, Or Aggressive Communicator?

You are at a restaurant and order a burger with mayonnaise, but they give you one with
mustard. You would:

You are in line at the store waiting to buy a new outfit. Suddenly, someone steps in line ahead of you. You would:

 After walking out of a store where you purchased some items you discover you were short-changed. You
would:

You are in the middle of watching a very interesting TV show when your parent comes in
and asks you for a favor. You would:

 A friend drops in to say hello, but stays too long, preventing you from finishing your homework. You
would:

At the beginning of class your teacher asks you to turn in a worksheet but you wrote down that it was not due until tomorrow. You would:

You suspect someone of harboring a grudge against you, but you don't know why. You would:

You ask at the movie theatre for a small drink ($2.50), however, they give you a large by mistake and ask you
for $4.50. You would:

You invite a good friend to your house for a dinner party, but your friend never arrives and neither calls to
cancel nor to apologize. 

You are in a group discussion about a project at school that includes your teacher. A classmate asks you
a question about your work, but you don't know the answer. You would:

Assertiveness is a healthy way of communicating. Assertive communication is a style in which individuals clearly state their opinions and feelings, and firmly advocate for their rights and needs without violating the rights of others. These individuals value themselves, their time, and their emotional, spiritual, and physical needs and are strong advocates for themselves while being very respectful of the rights of others. (Source: University of Kentucky)

YOU'RE AN ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATOR

Passiveness is an unhealthy way of communicating. Passive communication is a style in which individuals have developed a pattern of avoiding expressing their
opinions or feelings, protecting their rights, and identifying and meeting their needs. As a result, passive individuals do not respond overtly to hurtful or anger-inducing situations. Instead, they allow grievances and annoyances to mount, usually unaware of the buildup. (Source: University of Kentucky)

YOU'RE A PASSIVE COMMUNICATOR

Aggressiveness is an unhealthy way of communicating. Aggressive communication is a style in which individuals express their feelings and opinions and advocate for their needs in a way that violates the rights of others. Thus, aggressive communicators are verbally and/or physically abusive. (Source: University of Kentucky)

YOU'RE AN AGGRESSIVE COMMUNICATOR

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