I saw the most infuriating thread on the Am I the Asshole? subreddit earlier this week, and I knew I needed to share it with y'all.
Basically, a woman didn't tell her boyfriend about past cosmetic procedures she had undergone, and the boyfriend became extremely upset. Here's the entire situation, as told by the girlfriend, u/MaxineLu7:
"I (26F) have been dating Max (25M) for four months. When I was 22, I had a nose job as I broke my nose twice as a kid, and it left it with a large bump. Then, at 23, I had a breast augmentation that bumped me up two cup sizes. These were life-long insecurities that I was bullied over, and it was really relieving to get them done."
"On to the present, I met Max through a friend, and things have been great. Last night, I was scrolling through my social media while on the sofa with him. I stopped on an old classmate's vacation photo, where she wore a bikini, and frankly, had very obvious implants (she looks great, happy for her! But you can tell.)."
"Max glanced over at that moment and said, “Gross.” I asked him what the deal was, and he said women who get implants or other surgeries are a huge turn-off to most guys, and how men prefer natural over two balloons, and how insecure she looks."
"I couldn’t help but laugh and said, 'So, you’re turned off by me?' He got very confused and asked what I meant. I informed him I had procedures done before. He kept denying it and saying I was joking until I showed him old photos of me."
"He got quiet and left shortly after. I got a text saying I should’ve disclosed this on the first date, how I led him on, and that he needs to reconsider things. It’s the next day. Haven’t heard anything; I’m bewildered. AITA?"
I don't know about you, but I think she should leave this man.
It looks like Redditors thought so, too. One person who goes by u/winsomebunny assured the woman that she wasn't the asshole in this situation.
"Not the asshole," they said.
"You lucked out that he showed you this side at four months in. You could have been married before you found out he’s this shallow and misogynistic."
Someone else who goes by u/theformerorphan concurred and explained how ridiculous the boyfriend's reasoning was.
"People who get cosmetic surgeries shouldn’t have to explain themselves in order to be worthy of a relationship. Men claim to love a 'natural' woman, but in all honesty, most have no idea what that looks like," they said.
"Plus, any good cosmetic surgeon can make it look incredibly natural, so it always makes me laugh when men cite a woman who’s known to have work done as his 'ideal natural woman.'"
Another person with the username u/Sodonewithidiots also raised a valid point.
"How long of a list of corrections does Max expect on a first date? Braces? Contacts? Lotion to make your skin smooth? Does he need to know what makeup a date uses so he's aware of what's real and what's not? What about hair color and perm/straightening? A list of where you shave so you don't lead him on about where you grow body hair?" they said.
"Max is an idiot, and you've had a lucky dodge if this is how shallow he is."
The original poster has since given everyone an update on the situation, and well, let's just say she's cut off some dead weight.
"He finally replied to my text: 'I was hopeful we could start over on an honest beginning, but I guess only one of us is mature enough to look past each other’s shortcomings in the relationship. I’m glad you revealed this about yourself before I got too involved. Goodbye, good luck finding someone 'cause no real man would respect someone who can’t even respect their own body.'
Wow. I was comfortable with my decision before, but now, I’m extra comfortable lmfao. Blocked and bye. ✌️ He never deserved this limited edition set."