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He Isn't Breaking Up With You Because You Are Needy

He's breaking up because he can't see himself married to you. And that's okay.

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It's not your fault, and you've done nothing wrong.

Every girl has heard those same words while she is being broken up with. Sometimes, those words are a cop out. But sometimes, they are the real thing. As girls, we are geared towards thinking that if a relationship doesn't work out perfectly, it's our fault. This contrasts greatly from the way that boys are wired. Boys make impulsive decisions. They are not as likely to overthink or overanalyze as girls are, and if a guy does not see potential with a girl, he may choose to end the relationship. In this instance, it isn't because he thinks the girl is unattractive, or needy, or because she did anything wrong. Instead, he is breaking up with her because he doesn't see a future there. The question I, you, we, have to ask ourselves is: do we want to stay in a relationship that the guy isn't happy in? By breaking up with you, he's saying in the nicest way possible, 'I can't see myself marrying you.' As girls, we need to accept and respect that. Sure, it hurts. I can't tell you how many hours I've spent crying over failed relationships. But it is so important to appreciate failed relationships and to realize that break-ups are such a good thing. You don't want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't want to date you, no matter how cute, charming, sweet, or perfect he may be. When he breaks up with you, he is releasing you. He is telling you that you will be happier with someone else. You will be appreciated more by someone else. You will be able to love someone else more. He is not the one, he just isn't. That is why I believe that every break-up is such a dang good thing.

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