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    29 Products That'll Improve Your Queer Love Life

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    1. An enhancer bra (and inserts) designed with trans women in mind.

    Get them from Chrysalis Lingerie: bra for $75 (available in sizes 32B-38D, five colors) and inserts for $175

    2. A candle that'll set the mood to "welcome to the queer love palace."

    Promising review: "I've tried many natural candles and this brand so far is my favorite. I even light them up at work and everyone that comes by my desk loves smelling them. My favorite scent is Seduce!" –John Serra

    Get it from Amazon for $9.37+ (available in multiple sizes, scents).

    3. A pair of underwear all set up for folks who are into/new to packing. (You can also choose an insert.)

    Get it from Tranzwear for $10.95+ (available in sizes S-XLG).

    4. And a packer insert for anyone who prefers an uncircumcised look.

    Promising review: "This looks, feels really realistic, and the silicone is nice and smooth and feels really pleasant to hold. So awesome that it's uncircumcised! I wear it for gender play and power play – it's hot to explore how packing can alter my attitude, affect, and confidence, especially if I've got other special outfit elements going on, too. I will say it feels too big for me to wear out in my normal clothes and not be obvious that I'm packing. For me this isn't an issue, but for someone who wants discretion, this may feel very obvious. This product makes me feel really at home in my body and opens up a whole new world of gender expression." –kfoxxxy

    Get it from Babeland for $56 (available in three colors).

    5. A guide to empower your gender identity.

    Promising review: "As someone who identifies as non-binary this is a GOD-SEND! I'm 25-years-old and when I was younger there was nothing to help navigate the taboo of gender identity. Not only that, it helps ease you into your new identity with out feeling like it's being bashed over your head or makes you feel doubtful about who you are. It's a worthy read! If you are in need of exploring your identity and discovering yourself, then this is the best tool for the job." –Chris

    Get it from Amazon for $16.99.

    6. A long charmeuse robe – because not much is sexier than satin.

    Promising review: "This is really nice. My boyfriend loves it. The material is of high quality, and it's so soft and silky. Fits perfectly!" –Sonoma Lady

    Get it from Amazon for $18.99+ (available in three colors, sizes M-XXL).

    7. An Echo Dot that'll order food, play music, hit the lights, and more for you.

    Smooth Alexa, smooth.

    Promising review: "I have both the generation one and two. Love them both. I use them every day to set the temperature, set the alarm, turn off the bedroom light, tell me the news, tell me if the dog has been fed, turn on/off the Christmas tree lights, play rain sounds at night, play smooth jazz in the evening, set a timer when cooking, tell me a joke, etc. I use the WeMo light switch for the bedroom and Christmas tree. It works fantastically. I use a Honeywell thermostat that connected very easily. I converted my old Bose Sound Dock with a bluetooth gadget and now use it with Alexa every day! Our house is now filled with music! Get an Alexa for yourself, you deserve it." –Larry

    Get it from Amazon for $44.99 (available in two colors).

    8. A strap-on and brief ~package deal~, made by queer folks for queer folks.!/2-0-Stripe-Brief+-Package-Deal/p/57779715/category=12828057&forcescroll=true

    Get it from RodeoH for $114.98+ (available sizes XS-3XL).

    9. And a sleek strap-on with a hole below the shaft to accommodate whatever genitals you're working with.

    Get it from Babeland for $89.

    10. A set of remote-control string lights you'll look smooth AF using.

    Promising review: "Love these lights! The remote works great, and I love the features. Makes my new canopy look very romantic. I only had to buy one strand to get all the way around our king-sized canopy." –Amazon Customer

    Get them from Amazon for $16.49 (also available in multicolor).

    11. A peg anal dildo that's just the right fit for first-time anal play.!/5-Peg-Pearlescent/p/82351626/category=4415833

    Stabilizers/underwear add-ons are also available for strap-on use.

    Get it from RodeoH for $29.99+ (available in three colors).

    12. And a glass plug for lovers of the butt with a bit more experience.

    Promising review: "This toy is really great for a firm sense of fullness, and no give during entry. The feeling of this toy slipping inside the body is super intense, and even with a fair amount of work, it can be a lot of fun. The slim handle allows for one to be in a kneeling or standing position, so the base isn't bothered by the butt cheeks. Great for tops who want a little something extra. Not recommended for anal beginners." –CatLich

    Get it from Babeland for $36.

    13. A four-pack of Astroglide gel, a water-based lube with thickness and slickness.

    Promising review: "Tried a few other lubes, and none feel as good as Astroglide. I prefer the liquid, but thought I would try out the gel. It is a lot thicker, but it also lasts a lot longer. Think it will perform better than the liquid when not going solo, though! Adding a bit of water brings back and/or adds to the slickness. Great price for the amount." –Anderson P.

    Get it from Amazon for $18.37 (also available in three.five-packs).

    14. Introducing Hugo – the prostate massager to end all other prostate massagers. Featuring two motors, a remote control, and eight settings to bring your orgasm to the next level.

    Promising review: "I have other toys that I use, but this is my first vibrating prostate massager. The first few times I tried it I wasn't in a good position, so it wasn't hitting the area right. Yesterday I took time to relax and get in the mood, and this thing was amazing once I found a good position. I can honestly say this is the only toy that has actually made me scream when I finished; as it was so intense. Definitely recommend, but give it time to find how it will work best for you." –CrazyConri

    Get it from Amazon for $173.85+.

    15. A suction cup attachment that's *ready to ride* for your fav hollowed-out dildo.

    Get it from Babeland for $32.

    16. A water-based lube with a pump for super easy use.

    Promising review: "Not too watery, not too thick. It has great consistency, and doesn't make you feel uncomfortable (e.g. too wet or having to reapply frequently). The beginning pump is enough, and this bottle is huge! The size definitely surprised me, in a great way." –Tonya

    Get it from Amazon for $7.97+ (available in three sizes).

    17. And a game-changing, warming lube dispenser ready to deliver the luxury you deserve.

    Promising review: "The Pulse is the ultimate bedroom accessory. The elegant design gives you confidence to leave it on the nightstand, without it feeling out of place. The warming system ensures a perfectly heated lubricant every time. Pulse is always ready, to ensure we are ready. My wife and I love our Pulse and I can't remember what the bedroom was like before it was introduced to us; nor do we want to!" –Ben

    Get it from Pulse for $249.

    18. A soft silicone gag perfect for bondage beginners.

    Promising review: "I'm redoing my review after using this during play. It is GREAT quality. Perfect. The silicone attached to the side of the ball does not rub/chafe the corners of the mouth, the taste is neutral, and it can be buckled by the user alone quite easily. I have a weird aversion to having stuff against my teeth, so I've always figured ball gags are not for me. Not so! This gag is firm, but the ball itself is a smooth matte silicone with a tiny bit of 'give'; so it did not feel hard/grating against my teeth. The ball is a normal size, not uncomfortably large, but anyone unfamiliar with gags will need adjustment to the positioning as is normal." –Anonymous

    Get it from Amazon $6.99+ (five colors available).

    19. Tahitian orchid massage oil – make your next massage session the most sensual massage session yet.

    Get it from The Body Shop for $10.

    20. Wine and chocolate-covered strawberries to romance yourself or your partner.

    The most enticing thing in this post, in my opinion.

    Get the wine from Drizly for $7+ and strawberries from Harry & David for $39.99+.

    21. A pair of boxer briefs with an insertable pad to give anyone who has a period a bit more confidence and comfort in their body.,

    Get them from Lunapads: boxers for $37.99 and pad insert for $16.99+ (multiple styles available)

    22. A set of silky bamboo bed sheets that'll make your bed the most heavenly place on earth.

    Promising review: "We have already washed these sheets several times. They are wearing well, with a little bit of piling. They are soft and slightly stretchy. Comparable to other bamboo sheets at almost twice the price." –HL Shopper

    Get them from Amazon for $69.99+ (14 colors, 10 sizes).

    23. A positioning pillow so you and your partner can finally try all the positions, or make you favs even better.

    Promising review: "It is a game changer in the bedroom. Skies are the limit with the variations you can have with this pillow. It is sturdy and firm, yet amazingly comfortable and keeps whomever is resting on it steady for whatever action is happening. For the price of a dinner out, this pillow will give you a return on your investment not countable in any currency." –Amazon Shopper

    Get it from Amazon for $49.99+ (available in three colors).

    24. A vibrator you can pair with a single- or double-strap harness, for face-to-face partner penetration. It's perfect for G-spot, clit, and prostrate stimulation.

    Promising review: "My boyfriend and I love to peg with this toy. It can be used without a harness, but we've found that using it with one allows for more control, and keeps the ridges pressed firmly against my clit. Without it, the Feeldoe hangs off my body and bends a lot, making it difficult to penetrate. The harness also forces the shaft end into a more upright position, which stimulates the prostate gland more effectively when in face-to-face positions. The bulbous ends stays in pretty easily unless you're really wet, so do not use lube! I find this toy very empowering, because it feels like it's my cock more than an ordinary strap-on. I love wearing this while jacking off the shaft. The bulb rocks against my g-spot while the ridges work on my clit, sending me into an awesome orgasm. The bulb can also be used as a convenient handle. This is a fantastic and versatile dildo." –Anon

    Get it from Babeland for $150.00+ (available in two colors).

    25. A FTM stroker made for transmen on HRT who want to get their stroke on.

    Promising review: "I love that it is closed at the top (has a head). This creates a nice suction for your body. It feels pretty good to squeeze the head, causing the air to move around in there. It also feels good to pull on the tip for the same reason, and it's hot to be able to do that. The ridging inside is also nice." –JT

    Get it from Babeland for $29.

    26. A pair of nipple suction toys for next-level nipple play.

    Promising review: "Seals very well and operates smoothly. Use a bit of lube to seal to the skin and you are set." –K&R in SD

    Get it from Amazon for $8.25.

    27. A monthly subscription box offering all the pleasurable options.

    Each box can be curated for individual or partner use. Items include vibrators, prostrate massagers, lube, lingerie, nipple chains, massages oils, games, and more. Plus, the items never repeat!

    Get it from Crate Joy for $20+.

    28. Dental dams, condoms for penises/dildos, and condoms for vaginas because safety is key. 🔑

    Get a five-pack of Dental Dams for $6.95 and 100-pack of condoms for penises/dildos for $17.75 from Amazon, and a three-pack of condoms for vaginas from Bonanza for $9.99 (with free shipping).

    29. And a cleaner for all your fav adult toys.

    Promising review: "I love this toy cleaner. In fact, it's the second one I've bought. I find that a lot of toy cleaners have an overpowering scent. I love the smell of this and it's not harsh. You can use it with any toy!" –Kbdancer390

    Get it from Amazon for $8.13.

    Good luck out there, friends.

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    The reviews for this post have been edited for length and clarity.

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