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    I Just Got Back Into The Online Dating Game, And I Already Want To Get Out Of It

    The dating world right now is unlike anything I’ve experienced before.

    Hi! I’m Fabiana, and I recently got back on dating apps after being off them for a year. And if you’re in a similar boat, you’ll understand just how weird and wild the online dating scene is right now.

    To give some backstory on my love life, I broke up with my ex-boyfriend right at the beginning of the pandemic.

    I have a pattern of being in long-term relationships, so after ending my previous one, I really wanted to give single life a shot, whatever that really meant during COVID-19 times.

    The first two months of living the single life, I actually felt really empowered.

    Fast-forward to January of this year, and I felt like I was in a better head space and ready to get back into the dating game. I was prepared to meet guys for virtual dates or a possible pandemic-safe outdoor dining situation.

    First stop: dating apps. This wasn’t going to be my first rodeo on dating apps because I was on them a few years ago — and even met my ex on an app. But I started slow and applied to be on the League, a somewhat "exclusive" app that gives you three potential prospects each day to sort through.

    This is the app's main page while your day's "prospects" are loading.

    After getting my feet wet on the League, I then downloaded the tried-and-true Hinge — an app that matches you with friends of friends.

    The author's dating profile on Hinge

    After a few matches and back-and-forth chats with guys talking about our dogs, I realized that dating during COVID was and is just as weird as I expected it to be.

    After a few months of getting my dating feet wet, I'm now at the point where my friends and I trade funny stories to see who has experienced the most bizarre dating scenario.

    For example, one guy I matched with early on — who said he was six years older than I am — set the bar low.

    There was also the guy who kept referring to me as his "pen pal" — and another who quickly moved from chatting in the app to watching all my Instagram stories.

    Or the guy who was a no-show to a FaceTime that he scheduled via an early-morning wake-up text.

    Screenshot of chat about his dog dying and that's why he was too upset to FaceTime and her saying she understands, but "a quick text even an hour beforehand would've been appreciated"

    Classic ghosting seems to be more prevalent in pandemic times, too.

    For a while, I was using both apps at the same time and kept getting discouraged. So I have since deleted Hinge and have decided to just stick with the League.

    Anyway, it’s a bizarre world out there in the distanced-dating scene. If you, too, are going through this with dating, just know you’re not alone.

    Have you had any luck with dating apps or dating during the pandemic? Share your tips and tricks (or your horror stories 🙃) in the comments below!