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Ask A Dumb Cat: "Is It OK To Make Out With Someone Who Used To Be My Mentor?"

Plus, how to deal with new-roommate tensions! "Ask A Dumb Cat" is a weekly column offering advice, consolation, and life lessons from A Dumb Cat. Send your questions for A Dumb Cat to

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Dear Dumb Cat,

All through high school, I had a mentor who was 6 years older than me and of the opposite sex. We were really close during those years, but our friendship came to a standstill after I graduated and entered college. Now that I'm in my third year of college and we've reunited, I'm starting to catch feelings for him. Is it completely ludicrous to confront him about it because of the way that we met? How would I even approach him about it? I'm really confused, and think that he might be the one. Help!



Dear IDK,

Transitioning from a mentor/student relationship to one where you are on equal footing can be tricky. Instead of confronting this person with your feelings out of the blue, pick an evening when you are both planning on meeting for a casual drink or dinner. On the day in question, search through your home for a paper bag (any old grocery bag will do!) that is large enough for you to comfortably sit on. Walk around on the bag so that it makes a crinkling sound, occasionally ripping off pieces of the bag with your teeth and leaving them scattered around you on the floor, until you have a lovely, crinkly paper bag nest for yourself. Sleep in your paper bag nest all the way through the night and into the next day.


A Dumb Cat

Dear Dumb Cat,

I am attending university and my roommate is a total slob! She leaves all her stuff in the common areas. She put her storage in front of my dresser. And, to top it all off, she uses drugs inside the room. I don't know how to bring this up with her. What should I do to make my room livable again?

-Weeping in Wales

Dear Weeping,

Finding common ground with a new roommate is always an incredibly delicate process - because no one wants their sanctuary to be invaded by interpersonal tensions. Regardless of who's in the right here, it is essential that you handle this matter with tact, empathy, and above all subtlety.

One common point of contention between roommates is the bathroom, and that's a great place to start in your situation. Next time your roommate is away, try urinating somewhere unexpected. Then, do it while she is home.


A Dumb Cat

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