Channing Tatum Wrote A Perfect Open Letter To His Daughter
"My highest hope for her is just that she has the fearlessness to always be her authentic self."
If there's one couple who epitomise relationship goals, it's Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan-Tatum.
Seriously, they're ridiculously cute.
And they've gone on to have an adorable daughter together – Everly, who's 3.
So when Channing was given the opportunity to write an open letter in Cosmopolitan, he decided to make his wife and daughter the focus. And it's just too lovely.
Channing began the article by saying that he hoped Everly would read the letter when she's older – and that she would be fearless and confident in who she was.
I thought about my daughter reading this article some day. I pictured her in her late teens or early 20s, hoping to explore and discover her sexuality and dreaming about finding true love. I tried to imagine the things I'd want her to read that would help her understand men and sex and partnership better, and at that moment, I realised a strange thing. I don't want her looking to the outside world for answers. My highest hope for her is just that she has the fearlessness to always be her authentic self, no matter what she thinks men want her to be.
He then revealed that it was Jenna's confidence in expressing her feelings that made him fall "head over heels in love" with her.
I thought about when I first met Jenna. I knew our connection was really powerful, but I wasn't sure what our relationship was going to be. Then one day, Jenna just blurted out that she knew exactly what she wanted in life and she didn't have to look for it anymore because it was me. She had no idea what I'd say or how I'd react, but that was her truth. I remember feeling this incredible rush – it was the sexiest thing she'd ever done for me. I felt strength, because in that moment, she had accepted every part of me, the good and the bad. And I knew she wasn't auditioning me or hoping I'd meet some set of expectations. That radical authenticity of hers was what made me fall head over heels in love. Before I experienced it, I wouldn't have known how to ask for it. Now I know it's what I was always craving.
He said he hoped his daughter would grow up to be as strong and autonomous as her mother.
That's what I want for my daughter – to be expectation-less with her love and not allow preconceived standards to affect her, to ask herself what she wants and feel empowered enough to act on it. We all know that every one of us is different and has a unique road map to our heart. We learn how to navigate it by leaping into love with both feet and giving our full selves without expecting anything in return. So I guess if there's one thing that I think men wish women knew, it's just that they alone are enough. When more women start to truly feel this power in themselves, the world will become so magical, it makes my head hurt.
Channing concluded by saying that he hopes we continue to liberate ourselves from gendered expectations to create a world in which women are truly heard.
We live in a society that has trained men and women to play certain kinds of roles for a long time, and the beauty of this amazing moment we're living in is that we're finally starting to break free from those roles. Women, especially, are realising that they no longer have to conform to certain standards of social and sexual behaviour, and this changes what they need from men and the role of men in general. I want women to feel what it's like to exist in a world where men really listen to them, where they treat them like goddesses.