Here Are 22 Controversial Opinions On Parenting That People On The Internet Think Everyone Should Know
"If you want to teach your children to be able to say 'no' and develop boundaries, they need to be able to say no to you first."
Recently, X user @_Phoenixblvck asked users to share their most controversial opinions on parenting.
Opinion about Parenting that would get you like this? Let’s have them! pic.twitter.com/AAfvQYrRdo
— Phoenix Blvck (@_Phoenixblvck) August 10, 2023
Here are some of the most thought-provoking responses...
1.
Staying together for the kids is ridiculous.
— Shawn C (@nashvilleBob1) August 12, 2023
2.
If you want to teach your children to be able to say no and develop boundaries, they need to be able to say no to you first. https://t.co/VHwCUyzkbd
— Nosipho Makhakhe PhD (@DrMakhakhe) August 13, 2023
3.
Parents are more likely to be their kids first bully than they are their first cheerleader! https://t.co/CiamcnrFwB
— Taylor aka Barabie the Bara Bratz Doll! (@sonic79894) August 14, 2023
4.
Comparing children doesn't lead to motivation. It leads to pure resentment.
— 🥰Sugar🥰 (@_oriaku_) August 10, 2023
5.
Also having a kid doesn't magically make all the problems *disappear* you were experiencing before giving birth.
— Hibiscus tea 🌺 (@Blank_name_herr) August 12, 2023
6.
There's no rule book to parenting. What works for you might not work for another. Kids are unique and should be treated that way.
— Odogwu (@ManLikeLight_) August 11, 2023
7.
There should be some sort of test that a person needs to pass before they have children.
— AstroBaby91 (@AstroBaby91) August 11, 2023
8.
Children deserve to have a voice and deserve respect just as much as any adult does. What they say or feel shouldn’t be dismissed or not taken seriously just because they’re a child. They need to be allowed to agree or disagree with things, be heard and understood.
— Amber ✨ (@Nekogingy) August 12, 2023
9.
providing for your kids physically, as in a warm home & food & physical safety is the bare minimum.
— 𝓂𝒶𝓃𝑒𝑒𝓈𝒽𝒶 𝓈𝑒𝓂 (@mane3sha) August 12, 2023
if you don’t learn how to nurture your kids emotionally, listen to them as if they are whole human beings with real feelings, validate their emotions no matter how *childish* yOu…
10.
It’s actually very unnecessary to tell your kids that they have to love/respect a family member no matter what they do/say to them. You're just teaching them to have no boundaries and it’ll show in their friendships and relationships later on https://t.co/GEK2nFHpvn
— 𝐒𝐢𝐦✞✞✞ (@WhoTFissim) August 13, 2023
11.
the nuclear family model is destroying community parenting. it leaves parents overwhelmed & children without adequate emotional support. it’s more beneficial to have more than 2 people to raise a child. a community of ppl you trust is more beneficial & it’s ok to have that help. https://t.co/ZaceqcXEtC
— Kemi Marie (they/them) (@kemimarie) August 13, 2023
12.
Your child being “too mature” for their age isn’t a good thing. Children aren’t supposed to feel pressured to act like adults. They’re supposed to be able to kids, act out and rebel from time to time.
— Phoenix Blvck (@_Phoenixblvck) August 15, 2023
Always feeling the need to “act right” is making them skip an important… https://t.co/wFo1Gx6Fyj
13.
You cannot be a terrible partner to your spouse and a good parent.
— ULOMA (@ulxma) August 13, 2023
The fact that your children are witnesses to how bad you treat your spouse is already evidence of bad parenting. https://t.co/FWQAVSe8hE
14.
the reason why a lot of parents perceive the bare minimum (providing food, shelter, clothing, education, etc.) as if they're things kids should be grateful for is because we live in a flawed system where all of these things are /very/ difficult to obtain https://t.co/fXNHUSkUG1
— ulysses (@o_li_si) August 13, 2023
15.
Your children are not your therapists. Stop trauma-dumping on them. https://t.co/dpHC30Tj4l
— The Psychotherapist (@dedoyinajayi) August 13, 2023
16.
1. A child making a mistake is not an opportunity to punish them — it’s an opportunity to guide them.
— #ThreadBARBIE (she/her) (@ATMwithJacy) August 13, 2023
2. Kids deserve to have boundaries & should be able to speak up for themselves.
3. Kids are not built-in slaves. Do it YOURSELF. https://t.co/p6QEzIUSZN
17.
your kids are not obligated to meet and talk to your friends that knew them as a child.
— JOLLY J✨ (@DynamoSuperX) August 13, 2023
that shit is so uncomfortable and the conversations be awkward as hell.
these people are basically strangers to us, and for some reason they get offended that you don't remember them. https://t.co/EaS3PST5sJ
18.
When a child-free adult shares their experience and opinion on good/bad parenting, that experience is still valid. We were all kids once. https://t.co/AtehWXdIcs
— potatum🥔 (@pot8um) August 13, 2023
19.
i know this is just me being judgemental and i should mind my own business but i hate going to restaurants and seeing kids on ipads while they eat. i was never allowed devices at the table and it made me more curious about what i was eating and helped my conversation skills! https://t.co/2CAELSmr7K
— little mi (@bigdybbukenergy) August 12, 2023
20.
Your children’s disability isn’t social media “content” for you to share https://t.co/Rwowh989Vi
— Happy Disability Wrath Month 🔥 (@HijaDe2Madre) August 13, 2023
21.
Time outs are toxic. Separating your kids from you & everyone else when they make a mistake just teaches them that mistakes make you unlovable. It’s solitary confinement and solitary confinement is psychological abuse.
— bhavjot ✨(puv-jo-tuh) (@LightofEmotion) August 12, 2023
22.
Just because you’re ready to have a baby doesn’t mean you’re ready to be a parent https://t.co/URpFMVRt5w
— Felon Degeneres (@_alyssssssac) August 14, 2023