10 Signs That You're Ready To Break Up And Move On

Breaking up is hard to do, most of the time. When you're in a relationship for a while, it can be hard to see things objectively. And if youre like me, the thought of hurting someone is way more painful than just sticking it out. These are things I used in my life to decide if it was time to break up. They may or may not work for you, but they were helpful for me. Here are 10 signs that it's time to move on to something new.

10. You want to break up.

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Yup. That's it. If you want to break up, then go for it. You don't need permission from anyone to make a change in your relationship. And you don't owe anyone an explination. If you want to break up, here is your sign.

9. You are thinking about how fun it would be to go on the Bachelor/Bachelorette.

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Ok, so maybe you're not quite as confident in your decision to break up and you want some guidelines or questions to ask yourself to help you figure things out. I get it, I felt that way too. And then I was hate watching the Bachelor one day and all of a sudden I was thinking about applying to be on the show. Instead of dreaming of being with my boyfriend forever, I thought it would be more fun to fight with 25 other women to maybe date some dude who may or may not want to date me.

8. You're priority #3 or 4 on his/her list.

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Ok, relationships should be healthy and balanced. The person your dating/married to/commited to shouldn't be the only thing you think about or do things with. And vice versa. You each should have other people in your lives and things you do just for yourself. But if you're thinking of being with this person forever (or at least a while) and you can tell you're not one of their top priorities, maybe its time to go. If this person is constantly putting a lot of people before you, do you really want to be with them?

7. They're priority #3 or 4 on your list

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Same idea but this time you have other people you would rather spend time with and do things for. If this is just a casual thing for both of you, thats no biggie. But if your blowing someone off who is thinking about being with you for a while, maybe its time to move on instead of hurting the other person.

6. You're avoiding big conversations because you fear what the other person is going to say.

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The issues or viewpoints that are important to you should be similar with the person you're with. Or if not similar, at least respected. You don't have to agree on everything. In fact you can have a lot of different viewpoint and still have a wonderful relationship. But if most conversations turn into a heated debate where one or both of you are crying or you don't feel respected, thats not great. If you've had those conversations and now your avoiding them all together because you know it's going to be a mess, maybe it's time to move on.

5. You're rolling your eyes at what they say or do. A lot.

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Rolling your eyes can be a sign of contempt. And comtempt in a realtionship is no good. There is research about how contempt can slowly kill a realtionship. You can read more about contempt in relationships here.

4. When they say they want to spend the rest of their life with you, your insides go cold.

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In a previous relationship, towards the end whenever he would mention our future wedding, I would freeze inside. At the begining of the relationship I enjoyed these conversations. But overtime, those conversations would cause anxiety.

3. When you imagine your future with this person, you're not all that excited. Or you're dreading it.

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I'll never forget when I when I was thinking about what life would be like raising kids together and I just got so tired. I didn't want to do it.

2. You don't get along with or dont like one or both of their parents.

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Whether we like it or not, on some level we become our parents. I've noticed so many things that I do that are like 1 or both of my parents. Most of the time its funny. But if you've met your partners parents you could be getting a view into the future. Chances are, your partner will have some of these traits or habits. If you don't get along with their parents, what makes you think that life with your partner will be different?

1. The most important sign that you're ready to break up: You want to.

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I can't emphasize this enough. If you want to, then you can. One friend was asking me advice and she had all these reasons as to why they should stay together or why it should be working and its not. So I asked her, do you want to break up? And she said yes but bla bla bla. So I asked her again and then said, you don't need permission and you don't need to explain yourself. If this is what is right for you, go for it. If you want to explain, go for it. But if you want to just cut ties and run, you can do that too.