13 Tips To Get Sexy Bedroom Confidence

Because women in control are sexy.

1. Always pack a condom on the night out.

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You never know who you'll meet, and when you do decide that you want to have sex, you'll be ready. And just knowing that you're in control of this will give you an extra dash of sexy confidence.

2. Suggest you go back to your place rather than his.

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Being in familiar surroundings – and knowing where the bathroom is and the condoms are kept – means one less thing to worry about when you're getting down to business.

3. Learn a sexy way of putting a condom on.

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Grabbing a condom in the heat of the moment doesn't need to halt proceedings. In fact, it can make things a lot sexier, especially if you learn some sexy ways of putting one on. Think fruit-flavoured pleasure gel, or putting it on together.

Plus, you're less likely to meet with embarrassment or resistance if you make it a sexy treat and a natural part of foreplay.

4. Work out a morning-after escape plan.

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If you know that you're only up for one night of fun, make sure you figure out how you're going to get rid of him the next morning without having to cook him breakfast first! Try saying "Let's go back to mine. I have to meet friends at 12, so you'll need to be gone by 10 tomorrow though."

5. Know your body.

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Knowing what makes you tick is the best way to gain confidence. You'll feel less awkward than the both of you trying to guess what you enjoy. One of the easiest ways to get to know your body is through masturbation.

6. Don't worry about killing the moment with the condom talk.

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He'll probably be relieved that now he's not the one who has to bring it up. And even if he hadn't given it a second thought, the knowledge that when wearing a condom you're safe from nasty STDs will give you an added confidence boost.

If you feel awkward bringing up the subject of condoms, work out beforehand an easier way for you to do so. This could include keeping them in an easy-to-reach container next to the bed. In fact, actions speak louder than words, so make sure that they'll be within your reach so that you can take one out and offer it to him.

7. Incorporate some pleasure gel.

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A drop of pleasure gel into the head of the condom will increase the sensation for him – and it can also be used to help slide a condom on in the heat of the moment. He'll be impressed with your moves, and you'll have a sexy new way of introducing a condom.

8. Realise it's just sex – not an audition.

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Don't feel the need to perform every move you've ever heard about. Take it slowly and remember to enjoy yourself. You're not there just to pleasure him!

9. Give him a massage.

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Offering him a rubdown is the easiest way to take control in the bedroom in a non-scary way. Use massage gels for an extra special treat. His moans of pleasure should give you more confidence to initiate even more pleasurable activities! Just make sure you use pleasure gels that have been tested with the type of condom you're using so they don’t damage the condom.

10. Keep an emergency stash of sexy lingerie in the bathroom.

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Wearing a sexy lace bra under your clothes can ruin the line. However, looking good makes you feel confident. So hide a stash of sexy underwear sets in a bag in your bathroom. Make sure you take him back to yours, and do the old change-a-roo when you get get back. He won't know what's hit him!

11. Show him where he's going right.

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If you're too shy to outright tell him what you want him to do, use affirmative noises when he is hitting your hotspots. Tell him how good he is at what he's doing (e.g., "It feels so good when you xyz"). He won't forget what you like in a hurry!

12. Forget having a few drinks to feel confident.

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Having a few too many drinks before sex might make you feel more carefree, but it'll reduce sexual sensitivity and make you more likely to act in a reckless way – especially when it comes to contraception.

Instead, gain confidence by learning a few tricks, such as the ultimate blow or hand job.

13. Experiment with different types of condoms.

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One of the barriers to being able to confidently use a condom is the misconception that you're somehow "spoiling" it for him. Ummm… No. Instead of focusing on that, work out how a condom can make the experience sexier for you; try ribbed, dotted, ultra-thin, or one that extends/enhances your orgasm. You enjoying yourself during sex will be far sexier than him going in without a raincoat on.

Who would have guessed using a condom could be a sexy bedroom trick?

Bottom line, being confident is sexy, and when you feel safe, you feel confident. Durex condoms help keep you safe – giving you one less thing to worry about in the bedroom.