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I Did Not Lose A Pregnancy

What pregnancy loss looks like for me.

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I did not lose a pregnancy; I lost a child…four of them. I lost hopes, I lost dreams, I lost innocence and watched the innocence of my children be taken from them as they struggled to understand what happened and why. I lost four first steps, four first solid foods, four baptisms,four kindergarten graduations, four confirmations, four weddings…So much more than just four pregnancies. I am at peace as much as I can be with these losses as each one shaped me a little more, helped me to enjoy the children I am blessed to have a little more. I read poems that have helped to carry me through a grief so raw and often so private. This is one of my favorites. I thought of you and closed my eyes, And prayed to God today. I asked what makes a Mother, And I know I heard him say: A mother has a baby, This we know is true. But, God, can you be a mother, When your baby’s not with you? Yes, you can he replied, With confidence in his voice. I give many women babies, When they leave is not their choice. Some I send for

I did not lose a pregnancy; I lost a child…four of them. I lost hopes, I lost dreams, I lost innocence and watched the innocence of my children be taken from them as they struggled to understand what happened and why.

I lost four first steps, four first solid foods, four baptisms,four kindergarten graduations, four confirmations, four weddings…So much more than just four pregnancies. I am at peace as much as I can be with these losses as each one shaped me a little more, helped me to enjoy the children I am blessed to have a little more.

I read poems that have helped to carry me through a grief so raw and often so private. This is one of my favorites.

I thought of you and closed my eyes,

And prayed to God today.

I asked what makes a Mother,

And I know I heard him say:

A mother has a baby,

This we know is true.

But, God, can you be a mother,

When your baby’s not with you?

Yes, you can he replied,

With confidence in his voice.

I give many women babies,

When they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime,

And others for a day.

And some I send to feel your womb,

But there’s no need to stay.

I just don’t understand this God,

I want my baby here.

He took a breath and cleared his throat,

And then I saw a tear.

I wish that I could show you,

What your child is doing today,

If you could see your child smile,

With other children who say.

We go to earth and learn our lessons,

Of love and life and fear.

My mommy loved me oh so much,

I got to come straight here.

I feel so lucky to have a mom,

Who had so much love for me.

I learned my lessons very quickly,

My mommy set me free.

I miss my mommy oh so much,

But I visit her each day.

When she goes to sleep,

On her pillow’s where I lay.

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,

And whisper in her ear.

“Mommy don’t be sad today,

I’m your baby and I’m here.”

So you see my dear sweet one,

Your children are Ok.

Your babies are here in My home,

They’ll be at heavens gate for you.

So now you see what makes a mother.

It’s the feeling in your heart.

It’s the love you had so much of,

Right from the very start.

~Author Unknown

“…And then I saw a tear.” God feels my pain, he understands my pain…he lost a son once to.

“…My mommy loved me oh so much, I got to come right here…My mommy set me free…” Eventually I was able to set each of my babies free, I am satisfied that they are wrapped in the arms of Jesus who said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” (Matthew 19:14)

Do I still cry? Sometimes. Do I ask. “Why me?” Absolutely not. I am privileged to have been filled with love for each of these four babies. I am proud to be the mother to the three children I gave birth to who are healthy and now a grandmother as well.

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