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This Mom’s Letter To A Teenage Boy Who Helped Her Daughter Learn To Skateboard Will Give You All The Feels

"You held her hand and helped her get up when she fell down."

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"I wish I could skateboard," said 6-year-old Peyton recently. But she thought it was just for boys. "We had a long talk about how there are no such thing as 'Boy things' and 'Girl things,' there are just things," says her mother Jeanean Thomas.

Jeanean Thomas

Thomas gave Peyton her old skateboard and took her to the local skate park in Cambridge, Ontario. When they arrived, they saw a group of teenage boys skating, smoking, and swearing.

"Mom, it’s full of older boys," Peyton said.

Thomas told her that didn't matter, and Peyton began to skate. Soon, one of the older boys came over to Peyton.

"I immediately prepared to deliver my 'She’s allowed to use this park just as much as you guys' speech," Thomas wrote in a letter to the boy posted on Twitter after the encounter. Instead, the boy told Peyton, "Your feet are wrong. Can I help you?"

Jeanean Thomas

The encounter inspired Thomas to write a thank-you letter to the boy.

"You proceeded to spend almost an hour with my daughter showing her how to balance and steer, and she listened to you – a feat not attained by most adults!" she wrote.

"I want you to know that I am proud that you are part of my community, and I want to thank you for being kind to my daughter, even though your friends made fun of you for it."

"She left the skate park with a sense of pride and with the confidence that she can do anything, because of you."

Jeanean Thomas

"When we were leaving the park I said, 'That was really nice of that boy to help you like he did.' She said 'Yeah,' and then turned around and ran back to him and said 'Thank you!' and smiled," Thomas told BuzzFeed Canada.

She said Peyton now skateboards all the time.

"If it interests you, you can do it," she said. "Your gender doesn't matter, how you treat others is what matters."

Read the full letter below.

Dear teenage boy at the skate park:

You're probably about 15 years-old, so I don't expect you to be very mature or for you to want a little girl on your skate ramp for that matter.

What you don't know is that my daughter has been wanting to skateboard for months. I actually had to convince her that skateboarding wasn't for just for boys.

So when we walked up to the skate park and saw that it was full of teenaged boys who were smoking and swearing, she immediately wanted to turn around and go home.

I secretly wanted to go too because I didn't want to have to put on my mom voice and exchange words with you.

I also didn't want my daughter to feel like she had to be scared of anyone, or that she wasn't entitled to that skate park just as much as you were.

So when she said, "Mom it's full of older boys," I calmly said, "So what, they don't own the skate park."

She proceeded to go down the ramp in spite of you and your friends flying past her and grinding rails beside her.

She only had two or three runs in before you approached her and said "Hey, excuse me ..."

I immediately prepared to deliver my "She's allowed to use this park just as much as you guys" speech when I heard you say, "Your feet are wrong. Can I help you?"

You proceeded to spend almost an hour with my daughter showing her how to balance and steer, and she listened to you – a feat not attained by most adults.

You held her hand and helped her get up when she fell down and I even heard you tell her to stay away from the rails so that she wouldn't get hurt.

I want you to know that I am proud that you are part of my community, and I want to thank you for being kind to my daughter, even though your friends made fun of you for it.

She left the skate park with a sense of pride and with the confidence that she can do anything, because of you.

Craig Silverman is Media Editor for BuzzFeed News and is based in Toronto.

Contact Craig Silverman at craig.silverman@buzzfeed.com.

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