Before you go hunting, here's the most important thing to remember: This is just one erotic area that feels good to some people, and the exact location can vary a little. So don't think you're crazy if you can't find it — or if you think you did, but it just feels meh. "You could have a clitoris and not like to have it stimulated either," says Herbenick. "If it doesn't feel good to you, then don't do it."
But if it feels like pure awesomeness, enjoy it! Don't let anybody tell you the G-spot is a lie or a myth or all in your head. Your orgasms are valid, and who cares where they come from? "All we're trying to do is help women to feel better about themselves," says Whipple. "To enjoy what they enjoy, enjoy what is pleasurable to them, and to feel good about that."