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Here's What People Really Think About Height And Dating

"Having an extreme physical characteristic is useful — the way people react to it tells you a lot about them in an instant."

Height is quite often the first thing you notice about a person, so it plays a big role in the dynamics of ~attraction~

Yes, focusing on what's inside is more important — but that's easier said than done. It's hard to ignore something as obvious as height, especially if it makes a person stand out.

While some people find that their height doesn't impact dating at all, others may feel that it allows for judgment, fetishization, and stereotyping. In a society where there are ideals of femininity and masculinity, it can be difficult for individuals who don't fit neatly into those boxes. Plus, navigating the world of dating is already a mess, so being on an extreme end of any physical spectrum doesn't exactly make it any easier.

We talked to some of BuzzFeed’s tallest and shortest employees — and a few in between — about how their height has impacted the way they experience dating and relationships.

1. Kevin is 5'3", dates men, and finds that opposites attract.

2. Caroline is 6'0", dates men, and is tired of her height being up for discussion.

3. Meredith is 5'5", dates mostly men, and finds her height is more of an advantage since transitioning.

4. Brett is 5'8", dates women, and wants to stop dealing with unrealistic ideals of masculinity.

5. Chaya is 5'0", dates mostly men, and finds her small size to be an advantage in a traditional gender binary.

6. Erik is 6'8", dates women, and can learn a lot about people by the way they react to his height.

7. Emily is 5'4", dates women, and doesn't think height ever needs to be a dealbreaker.

8. Dan is 5'5", dates men, and feels pressure to fit a certain body type as a gay man.

9. Rachel is 5'11", dates men, and finds it attractive when shorter guys are confident enough to be interested.

10. Will is 6'2", dates men, and wants to feel less weird about a big height difference.

11. Terri is 5'0", dates men, and isn't too short to notice when guys add a few inches on dating apps.

12. Shannon is 5'5", dates men, and has come to love her height after struggling as an early bloomer.

13. Chris is 6'4", dates women, and finds that a big height difference only makes things more hilariously interesting.

Bottom line: It's all relative.

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