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Here's How To Get A Haircut You Actually Like

It's all about communication.

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Your hair doesn’t need to call attention to itself, it just needs to look good.

Because in those stressful moments, like it or not, looking good matters. A job interview. A date. Lunch with grandma. Your hair should be one less thing to worry about.


But if you’re reading this, maybe you need some help with getting a really good haircut.

That’s because when most of us go to the barber we tell them some vague idea of what we think we want before conceding "Just do whatever you think looks best."

It's okay. We've been there. But it's time to take ownership of that stuff on top of your head (while you still have it).

We know, because we tried it for you.

Whether you go to the fanciest salon in your city, a greasy old-school barber or your local $12 Supercuts, these tips will help you get the cut you want.

Dude #1 - Angelo

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Interest in his own hair: πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’ / 5

Hair type: Thick, curly when long. Generally kept messy, no product.

What he usually asks for at the barber: "Keep enough length to run my hands through it and push it to one side out of my eyes. And I usually just ask for a #3 on the sides, not too short. Again, I usually defer to the barber and say 'I don't know, do what you think looks best.'


Dude #2 - Kevin

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Interest in his own hair: πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’ / 5

Hair type: Coarse but also curly and dry.

What he usually asks for at the barber: It depends on my mood, the time of year, and how daring I want to be when I'm at the barber. When I first got the hairstyle that I have now, I showed my barber a picture of Usher and Kid Cudi when they had their mohawks and she used those as inspiration.

We visited the best barber shop we could find to figure out what we should really getting at the barber shop.

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We got our hair cut by Nigella Miller at Blind Barber in Brooklyn, NY, where they give you a coffee, beer, whiskey or whatever during your cut, which is nice.

Nigella helped us figure out what info you should have ready when you walk into the barbershop.

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Do you use product? Would you? If so, you'll have to find the product that's right for you (your barber can help!) If not, there may some styling goals that are off limits to you.

Do you want to be able to recreate an exact style on your own?
Your barber can give you an aggressive style, but you have to decide whether your committed and skilled enough to do it daily.

How often are you willing to come back? Shorter cuts mean more frequent cuts, which can be pricier.

Do you keep your hair messy of precise? Pretty self explanatory, but depending on your profession and lifestyle, you might be able to get away with messier looks.

With those questions answered, your barber will be able to figure out a style that works for your level of effort.


The communication doesn't end there. During your haircut, keep an eye on the mirror, and ask questions about what your barber is doing.


Getting an actually good haircut can make a HUGE difference. Case in point:

Angelo's final thoughts:

Nigella did some different things than I'm used to, like using a comb and shears to do my sides instead of buzzers. This means my sides weren't as short as I usually get them, but that if I take my sweet time before coming back to the barber, my hair will look more natural as it grows out.

I barely do anything to my hair besides a quick brush every once in awhile. But Nigella showed me how to use product effectively on those rare occasions when I want to look a little nicer. She told me to work in pomade on the back and sides first, then moving forward, then to brush it in so the product is evenly distributed and not all gunked up at the front.

If you're getting product, don't just assume you know how to use it. Ask the barber how!

Once you've found a barber or a shop that you like, that makes it so much easier. Building a rapport with a stylist is key, so that as you continue to come back, you won't have to really explain anything anymore.

Kevin's final thoughts:

This time I learned to trust the barber more and realized how much her aesthetic matches with mine. She went a little more daring and faded my sides much more dramatically to get more of a mohawk look.

I learned that after after the first few days, in order for me to maintain the look, I need to use a brush to keep things neat. (I also use two different products, a olive oil moisturizer, and a castor oil).

For guys who have hair like mine, you don't have to get stuck in your normal caesar haircut or very low fade. You never know how much a new hairstyle can improve your confidence and overall attitude.

I think it's relatively easy to get the look that you want if you're clear and direct about the look you're trying to achieve. You should always be satisfied when leaving the barber's chair, but also realize that it may take a few tries to get your hair to 100% perfection.