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A First Aid Kit For A Hurting Heart

Some helpful tools for healing. For the friends you can't be with while they're hurting.

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Take care of your body

You can splurge on a full body massage or a pedicure or a face mask at home. Any of these remedies to show your body some love. Remind your body of its strength and allow yourself the opportunity to relax. CVS and Urban Outfitters have great face masks deals.

Start a new physical activity

Try a yoga class, spinning, swimming, or dance. Since it is a new activity, there won't be previous and potentially hurtful memories tied to it. Release endorphins and channel any negative energy into focusing on your new activity.

Listen to Hard Feelings by Lorde

I'm serious. This song is magic. Take the lyrics "I light all the candles

Got flowers for all my rooms

I care for myself the way I used to care about you" literally. Light candles and add positivity into your space.

Make an empowering playlist

I recommend the playlist name "Bo$$ A** B****". Add songs by only female artist. BLAST Kesha, Pink, Beyoncé, Rihanna, Taylor, Lorde, Adele, Fifth Harmony, Charlie XCX, Daya, Avril Lavigne, Aly & AJ, Destiny's Child, Fergie, Florence, Hailee Steinfeld, etc. JUST EMPOWER YOURSELF with female vocals. All the power of these ladies resides in you. Listen to it on your commute to work, walks to class, work outs, always. Make this bomb playlist the soundtrack of your life.

Make a change

Some people will do the post-break up hair cut or get a tattoo. If you feel like an area of your life needs change for you to be able to heal and move on. Do it.

Process it

Some processing techniques include painting, therapy, and, song writing. Explore and understand your feelings. Horrible things happen and you need to process that so it doesn't resurface when you don't want it to.


There are horrible people. Reflect on people you love and trust. It can even help to send them a thoughtful message about why they mean so much to you. The love will likely be reciprocated and everyone benefits from that.

Begin Again

This is an incredible movie on Netflix that shows the journey of Gretta's healing heart. But watch other favorite movies that make you smile (Easy A) with your loved ones, pets and friends.


It can be frustrating when you put so much effort into healing and you have bad days. Time heals everything. Just be patient and love yourself. You are so strong, resilient and beautiful.

Stay vulnerable

Not weak, vulnerable. You heart has a massive capacity to love. It is so tempting to be guarded and jaded after people hurt you, but keep living your life with your heart on your sleeve. It makes you so authentic and incredible. It is rare to find people with the heart of gold you have, so let it SHINE. Also listen to Hello My Old Heart by the Oh Hellos.

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