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    After Being Turned Away From A Club Because Of Their Size, These Women Are Calling For A Change In Nightclub Policies

    Curve models Ella Halikas and Alexa McCoy were entering a club with about 12 other women when only they were stopped by the bouncer, who looked them up and down, closed off the rope, and denied them entry. "This type of discrimination is so damaging to people's self worth and confidence," Ella told BuzzFeed.

    This is Ella Halikas (left) and Alexa McCoy (right) — two curve models who were out with friends when they say they were turned away from a club because of their size.

    In a video that has gathered the collective attention of nearly 2 million viewers on TikTok, Ella and Alexa explained that on Nov. 2, the two ran into one another outside The Highlight Room, a Los Angeles club. Alexa invited Ella to join her group — a squad of 12 to 15 people — but, when Alexa attempted to file in after their friends, the bouncer purportedly put the rope down in front of her and said, "Not tonight."

    "The promoter starts letting in the whole group of girls and right when it gets to me, the bouncer puts the rope in front, looks me up and down, and says, 'Yeah, not tonight,'" Alexa recalled in their now-viral video. "I let him know I was a part of the group he was letting in and he looked me up and down one more time and said, 'Yeah, not tonight.'"

    "At that point it was extremely apparent what was going on and that I was being discriminated against because of the size of my body."

    At this point, Ella says she tried to approach the bouncer next to clear up any possible confusion, but she was ultimately told the same. "I was like, 'What do you mean not tonight? I'm so confused.' ... He wouldn't give us an answer, we didn't know why."

    BuzzFeed reached out to The Highlight Room for comment and received the following statement from their parent company, Tao Group Hospitality:

    “We are aware of Ella and Alexa’s experience. The doorman on this particular evening worked for a third-party promotion company and we’ve removed this individual from the door effective immediately.

    We have made several attempts to resolve the issue directly with Ella and Alexa and even scheduled a meeting within days to address their experience, which they unfortunately cancelled.

    Our company does not tolerate discrimination of any kind. We are always appreciative of feedback on our operations and continue to work on how to improve our guest experience.”

    According to Ella, both she and Alexa asked to reschedule their meeting with The Highlight Room but have yet to hear back since making this request. 

    When speaking to Ella about the situation, she says removing the doorman from his post is not enough. "I believe that removing the bouncer is just like removing a Band-Aid. It's a temporary fix to a bigger issue," the 25-year-old told BuzzFeed. "[The Highlight Room] has allegedly been notorious for turning away plus-size women and women of color for so long now. After hearing so many similar stories of this place, it's disheartening to see the way they are handling this situation."

    Some of these similar stories mentioned come from comments on their post and private messages Ella says she received after their video went viral. "I have received over 500 personal messages and comments from others who have experienced similar situations," she said.

    Not every one is about The highlight Room, which demonstrates a larger issue across nightlife:

    "One story was about...a successful plus-size model and influencer, who tried to go to [a] NYC nightclub with her friends and they let in everyone else who was thinner, but would not let her in unless she paid $4,000 to enter."

    "Other stories were of women who couldn't get into a club for their 21st birthdays and were so humiliated by this experience that they just never went to a club again. This type of discrimination is so damaging to people's self-worth and confidence."

    And it's this exact prevalence that has inspired Ella to speak up and share her experience online. "To be honest with you, we're tired of playing it safe. We're tired of not speaking up about it. This has happened to me three other times. I know this has happened to [Alexa] before, and our other curve friends as well, and it is not OK."

    "I wanted to share my story to give a voice to so many other women who may not have the platform to do so. Once this happened to us, I felt immediate sadness for all the other women who experience this so often and just never say anything about it," Ella said.

    "I hope that by speaking up, I will encourage others to do the same. ... I'm glad to be starting this conversation, and applying the pressure on nightlife and clubs across the world, to make some serious changes within their establishments."

    Since posting, Ella has considered ways forward and how clubs can ensure better treatment for all. "I would love to see new policies enforced at nightclubs, and possibly new sensitivity training for bouncers to complete in order to do their jobs successfully. This conversation is important to me — to ensure that no one else feels the way we did that night."

    "There needs to be a new system in place entirely, where more people can step in and determine whether this is right or not to not allow someone from coming in. It should not just be up to one person at the door that holds all this power."

    If you'd like to keep up with Ella or Alexa, you can follow Ella on Instagram and TikTok, and Alexa on Instagram and TikTok