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    This Bride-To-Be Has The Best Comebacks For Unwanted Wedding Advice, And I'm Saving Them For Later

    "Some weddings are for everyone, and I completely respect that, but mine is not."

    This is Justina Sharp, a 23-year-old bride-to-be who quickly realized that the difficulties of wedding planning don't only come from picking a venue. In fact, a lot of the stress can come from the unwanted opinions of those who are — or are not — on the guest list.

    After their engagement, Justina and her fiancé, Jordan Schauberger, swung into wedding planning, but she was surprised by the instant pushback to some of their wishes.

    "In bridal media, I kept getting inundated with articles about how to compromise, how to let people down gently, etc., and felt like there was a big vacant spot where 'just say no' should have been," she said. "So I filled it."

    And fill the gap she has. In a viral video on TikTok, Justina shared a few comebacks for unsolicited advice, based on the most common obstacles she's had to face while planning her own wedding.

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    Her zingy clapbacks, which include suggesting others take their own advice when they have a wedding instead of trying to live vicariously through her, instantly caught the attention of other recently engaged people and people who just like mess.

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    So, she started a series on applicable comebacks, and she responds to commenters who need something to say in their specific situations. When considering why helping other brides is important to her, Justina said: "Women especially are constantly told to be nicer, to accommodate others, so on and so forth, and I think it should stop here. A wedding is for you and your partner, and you are inviting GUESTS to bear witness to a celebration of your love."

    "My advice in general isn’t about being rude or confrontational; it’s about enforcing my boundaries, protecting my peace, and not parting out a once-in-a-lifetime experience to people who lack boundaries," she continued. "Some weddings are for everyone, and I completely respect that, but mine is not."

    If you're looking for a few polite but stern ways to simply say "no," here are Justina's best comebacks for unwanted advice on...

    Décor:

    Rows of seating accented with flowers on the tables and tea lights overhead
    Victor Dyomin / Getty Images

    Unwanted advice example: "I really like white roses. You should have white roses everywhere."

    Comeback: "That is such a great idea! YOU should have a wedding."

    The guest list:

    An invitation card with two rings laid on top
    Ol'ga Vostruhina / Getty Images/EyeEm

    Unwanted advice example: "If [enter name here] is not invited, I don't want to come."

    Comeback: "OK, thank you for letting me know."

    Kid-free weddings:

    A wedding party of adults posing for a photo outside on steps
    Kelvin Murray / Getty Images

    Unwanted advice example: "I should be able to bring my kids. Children are a blessing."

    Comeback: "To YOU."

    "Traditions":

    A groom holding his bride's garter in his mouth as she looks on
    Vivien Killilea / WireImage / Getty Images

    Unwanted advice example: "But a garter toss is tradition."

    Comeback: "Not anymore."

    Attendance:

    A person holding a tray of drinks
    Katrin Sauerwein / Getty Images/EyeEm

    Unwanted advice example: "If you don't have six signature drinks, people aren't going to want to come."

    Comeback: "They don't have to."

    Your budget:

    A piggy bank with the word "Wedding" written on the side next to a calculator and pen
    Peter Dazeley / Getty Images

    Unwanted advice example: "For what you're spending on this wedding, I could buy a house."

    Comeback: "So do that."

    For anyone who may be a bit too hesitant to dish out a comeback, Justina suggests leaning on your fiancé and establishing clear boundaries together. "My fiancé and I have had many conversations about what WE want from our wedding and associated events, what we are comfortable with, and are very honest about whose opinions we want contributing to our planning. ... It is not your responsibility to make others comfortable at the expense of your joy, especially in regards to the wedding day."

    After five years together, the couple's wedding day is set for 2022. If you'd like to keep up with their journey and virtually witness the magic, you can follow Justina on TikTok and Instagram.

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