3. Do Some Research.
Chances are you’re not the only one who is feeling this way. It’s a big world, and there are a lot of people out there just like you. Do a little research and find out how people are talking about your fantasies, and maybe even how they are approaching them in their relationships. Try reading this article from The Kinsey Institute.
5. Join a social network dedicated to discussing your fantasy.
Something established like Fet Life might help you better understand what other couples have gone through and are experiencing. The Internet is an excellent place to find information and make connections, as long as you know where to go.
8. Don’t randomly surprise them.
Be brave and have a conversation about it, don’t just bring it up in the bedroom — it will feel forced, almost like you’re putting them on the spot. Studies have shown couples who are comfortable talking about sex outside of the bedroom have a better sex life.
9. Take a confidential test and see what you’re both interested in.
Still concerned that neither of you will be on the same page? You and your partner can this test about what you’re interested in, and only the fantasies you have in common will appear in your joint results (and none of the stuff you don’t). You won’t be embarrassed, but you might just be pleasantly surprised at your similarities.