13 Libido Facts For People Who Want More (Or Less) Sex

    It’s not a one-size-fits-all situation, people.

    There are a lot of societal beliefs and expectations surrounding libido, such as how often people should be having sex and how often they should want to have sex.

    1. First things first, libido is more complex than just how often you want to have sex.

    2. And there is absolutely no such thing as a ~normal libido~.

    3. Trying to hold yourself to the societal standard of an ~ideal libido~ can actually be damaging to your self-esteem and relationships — and ironically, may lower your libido.

    4. And if your sexual partner’s libido is different than yours, it doesn’t mean they aren’t attracted to you.

    5. A change in libido can sometimes be a result of other underlying medical issues.

    6. BUT there are A LOT of common, everyday factors that play into one’s libido, and they can be different for everyone.

    7. And yes, your libido can change as you get older and your body matures.

    8. Oh, and no, libido should not be defined based on gender norm stereotypes.

    9. Your ability to orgasm has nothing to do with your libido.

    10. And libido aside, if you’re not enjoying your sexual experiences, it will decrease your desire to have them.

    11. If you want to increase your libido, you first have to understand why, and what’s causing it to be lower than you’d like.

    12. And note that while you should always explore your own needs and desires, it’s even more important to figure out so you can recognize a change when you need to.