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A Teen Committed Suicide Over Fears About Telling Her Christian Parents She Might Be Gay, Inquest Hears

Her parents say that her fears were misplaced and that they would have been "very supportive".

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A 14-year-old schoolgirl from Didsbury, Manchester, committed suicide because she was fearful of how her Christian parents would react if she told them she might be gay.

An inquest heard that Elizabeth Lowe, also known as Lizzie, had told close friends she thought she might be a lesbian, but that she was struggling with her feelings due to her faith.

She was also concerned about approaching the topic of her sexuality with her parents. However, her parents, Kevin and Hilary, say their daughter's fears were misplaced and that they would have been "very supportive".

"She was just normal and seemed happy," Kevin Lowe said. "There was nothing to suggest she was distressed or had any issues. She was very mature, she knew what she wanted and she knew her own mind.

"Lizzie did not make known her struggle with depression and the challenges she tried to face alone as a young adult. We wish she had confided because she would have found a wealth of love and acceptance and support. The loss of our precious daughter has left us broken-hearted."

On 10 September, Manchester Evening News reported that a friend of Lowe alerted the police after she received a text from her that ended with the words "stay strong. I am sorry".

Lowe was found hanged at 11.15pm in Fletcher Moss Park, and was pronounced dead just after midnight.

She had no drugs or alcohol in her body at the time of death. The hearing heard that she had self-harmed before, and that she described it as a "coping mechanism".

A friend of Lowe said at the hearing that she had said she was "finding it hard to connect with God as she thought she was lying to him". Another said Lowe spoke about her thoughts on her parents' reaction to her sexuality, and that she "wasn't sure if they would be OK with it".

Senior coroner Nigel Meadows said that Lowe did intend to kill herself and carried out the act, stating:

She was clearly an intelligent young woman.

She was a successful student but was going through issues of developing maturity and exploring her sexuality and was struggling to come to terms with that against her faith beliefs.

It is clear she was struggling and she was talking to others about it.

She never had the opportunity to share her concerns with her parents.

But I have absolutely no doubt they would have been supportive in their reaction.

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