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    14 Ways To Actually Resolve Conflicts With Your Friends

    Fighting with friends is hard.

    Friend fights: If you have a friend you love, you've probably had one.

    And they can be hard to resolve.

    We asked people in the BuzzFeed Community how they figure out their friend fights. Here's how they deal:

    1. Counting to ten:

    "When a friend does something that really upsets me or hurts my feelings, I first count to 10 to see if it's still bothering me. If it is, I try to explain to them what hurt me, and make sure they know I don't think they're a bad person and that I don't assume it was intentional. This "count to 10" method helps me pick my battles, which is the most important part.

    A lot of the time, the things that bug me are just benign personality quirks. When the quirks get particularly annoying, I have to remind myself that they're doing their best, and that there's probably a lot of things I do to annoy them, too." —Terri Pous

    2. Stewing in anger and eventually forgetting about it:

    3. Talking it out, even if that means hours-long discussions:

    "My best friend and I never let an argument last more than a few hours. We can always tell when the other one is at their limit so when something big comes up we just sit down and don't stop talking until we've made peace, whether that takes a few minutes of venting at each other or hours of discussion. Ultimately the important thing to remember is that you have to really take in and listen to their problems and be open to compromise or the smallest issue can explode." —ruariphilipa

    4. More talking, and also John Krasinski:

    5. Speaking up if someone goes too far:

    "Since both my best friend and I have a lot going on with exams and things we always try to just tell each other when we are not happy with each other. Also we make sure to ask each other regularly if a joke we make annoys each other or if the 'banter' is going too far!" —iamonlyhalfasian

    6. Typing on a tiny screen:

    7. Apologizing ASAP:

    "My best friends and I just look each other in the eye and blurt out what's bothering us. And if we ever get super angry at each other we fester for 1 minute and then immediately apologize. But what keeps us from having more than one argument a year is communication and understanding. We both know we cannot expect them to do what we do. We understand each other and communicate when we don't, that's how we resolve our conflicts." —cathys4e59a52fd

    8. Relieving stress with the help of some props:

    9. Sleeping on it to give things some space:

    "I believe that the best method for solving a fight is to never leave on an angry note. Don't stop texting or talking to them because you are angry…keep talking and try to sort out your differences. If they ignore you, or stop talking to you, give them a night. Sleep can help clear up the brain." —danielb4c7f88efe

    10. Guzzling down a drink or two:

    11. Recognizing that life is just stressful:

    "I usually think on it for about an hour and then talk to them about it. I try and see if there is something I missed that was going on in their life. I usually give my friends the benefit of the doubt. I know if they pissed me off it is usually nothing to do with me, they are just taking their personal life out on me." —lindsayt4692defd9

    12. Sitting down in a circle together:

    13. Avoiding the question:

    "Don't get into a conflict in the first place." —silverduzt

    14. And, of course, walkies:

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