Is My Fetish Normal?
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This week's question:
I am unbelievably turned on by pregnant women. When my ex and I found out she was pregnant, not a moment passed that I didn't feel the overwhelming urge to make love to her. I cannot explain this, and keep it to myself for fear of being scrutinized.
I first noticed my attraction to pregnant women several years ago. A woman I was seeing happened to be pregnant at the time. She was quite far along and I found her irresistible. The relationship did not last, and at the time I was not fully aware that her being pregnant was what drove me to want her on a constant basis. The feelings went dormant for several years until another woman came along and ended up pregnant with my child. Our sex life prior to the pregnancy was excellent, however, once we found out about the pregnancy the feelings of uncontrollable lust resurfaced.
I am still attracted to women that are not pregnant and the sex can be very satisfying. I do not believe this is having a negative effect on my daily life nor does it impede my ability to find a woman that is not pregnant incredibly attractive. However, any time I see a woman who is with child my hormones go berserk.
Why do I feel this way toward pregnant women and is it normal sexual behavior?
Hey Anonymous! Thanks for sending this along.
To help answer your question, we spoke with Neil Cannon, Ph.D., certified sex therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist. Here's what he had to say:
Fetishes are common, generally pretty harmless, and nothing to feel ashamed of — seriously.
So why do you have this fetish?
Here's what experts do know about fetishes.
As for whether or not it’s normal…
OK, so, logistically, this fetish might be hard to sustain in a long-term relationship. But that doesn’t mean it can’t be a part of your sex life.
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