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23 Things Everyone Who Has Sex Should Definitely Know

With great orgasms come great responsibility.

1. Women and men can benefit from doing Kegels.

2. Smokers have weaker boners.

3. Your doctor probably isn't testing you for ALL the STDs.

4. Sex just doesn't feel as good when you're schwasted.

Five rounds of gin and tonics won't do your genitals any favors, either. Tons of research shows that alcohol can reduce sexual functioning and responsiveness. And anyone who's experienced whiskey dick can attest to the boner-killing effect it often has in large doses. The fact is, alcohol is a depressant, and you don't want anything dulling your senses when you're having sex.

5. Sex is amazing for your health.

6. Sex burns about three to four calories per MINUTE.

7. Orgasms do funny things to your brain.

8. EVERYONE fakes orgasms.

9. Some people fake orgasms for actually kind of sweet reasons.

10. But a lot of people fake orgasms because of insecurities…or to get the sex over with already, TBH.

11. It's totally normal not to have an orgasm every time, and we need to accept that as a fact of life.

12. Switching things up and communicating openly with your partner can up your chances of having an orgasm.

Nothing is guaranteed when it comes to orgasms, but scientists have damn well tried to identify the things that will help you come. For instance, combining a variety of sex acts (like oral, anal, sex play with toys, etc.) along with penetration can make it easier for both men and women to orgasm, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Other research found that being in love or emotionally intimate with your partner can increase the probability of orgasm, says Herbenick, probably because it helps you relax and let go of your inhibitions.

“There’s research on heterosexual couples who were able to talk really specifically about sex,” says Herbenick. For them, getting super detailed — particularly about clitoral-focused stimulation (if they liked it, how they liked it, the speed/intensity that worked for them, etc.) — was associated with more pleasure.

Basically, science says that doing what you can to slow things down, eliminate distractions, and talk openly about what gets you off might make orgasms easier to come by.

13. Using lube will help you have orgasms.

14. Exercising can get you in the mood.

15. Some people can actually have orgasms from exercise alone.

16. Oral sex can make a penis get BIGGER.

17. If you have a vagina, and your eventual goal is penetration...you should do lots of other sex stuff first to prep for it.

18. On that note, pretty much everyone in heterosexual couples secretly wants foreplay to last longer than it does.

19. Lots of people screw up their birth control, even if they're trying so hard to do it right.

20. Most people stop using condoms without talking about STDs and stuff first. Stop that.

This is according to a survey by Trojan, which found that the majority of people between 18 and 34 ditched rubbers after having sex with the same person for two months. But unfortunately, only half of those people actually talked about ditching protection, and less than a quarter of them discussed STD testing first. But remember, a lot of STDs are completely symptomless, so just because you love and trust this person doesn't change the fact that they could be harboring something from a previous partner. Do your body a favor and always wear a condom until you're mutually monogamous and have both recently been tested.

21. Talking after sex is a great idea and you should try it!

You know how you sometimes open up like a drunk oversharer after you have sex? That's actually perfectly healthy, especially if you had an orgasm. Recent research shows that people who engaged in pillow talk post-orgasm viewed the talk as more open and intimate, plus they saw greater benefits to opening up to their partners than people who didn't have an orgasm. Blame it on the release of oxytocin, the warm and fuzzy bonding hormone that's released when you climax.

22. Lotsa orgasms a month can lower the risk of prostate cancer.

23. And in case you were wondering, this is what it looks like when a heterosexual couple has sex inside an MRI machine.

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Fast forward to 0:43 to see some kissing and banging go on inside the lab. Is it just us or are this woman’s insides getting all sorts of pushed around here?

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