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10 Things Therapists Want You To Know If You’re Tired Of Being Single

Trust. It's 100% possible to be single and living a happy, fulfilling life.

At this time of year, it’s not uncommon to have that why-the-hell-am-I-still-single feeling, especially if you were bugged about it during the holidays.

#GrowingUpHispanic when you go to a party with relatives and they ask you "y el novio?"

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You don't have to grow up Hispanic ("el novio" is Spanish for "boyfriend," btw) to know that this time of the year can make it feel difficult to be single — there are family gatherings, the bogus belief that we should be kissing a partner when it hits midnight on New Year's Eve, and Valentine's Day is right around the corner. But hey, it's not only during the holidays that it can be hard being single. Maybe you recently went on another bad date or maybe you saw a couple that was so obviously in love that it made you question your own self-worth. Regardless of what makes you hate being single, we're here to tell you that it's all going to be OK. Actually, it's gonna be great.

BuzzFeed Health asked clinical psychologist Jenny Taitz, author of How to Be Single and Happy, and sex therapist Dr. Stephen Snyder, author of Love Worth Making, for their thoughts on how to be single AND happy with it. Check it out.

1. First off, remember that loneliness isn't something that ONLY single people feel — people in relationships can feel it too.

2. If you're feeling lonely, it could be because you're not connecting with friends/family as much as you could be.

3. You should also get more involved in both activities that you enjoy and activities that fall in line with your personal values.

4. No matter what, always treat yourself through small gestures of self-compassion.

5. If you're actively dating, then schedule your dates around the aforementioned activities — not the other way around — and keep them short.

6. And if you've been turned off of dating because at this point it just feels like a waste of time, don't give up.

7. If you're using dating apps, use them thoughtfully and actually be present on your dates.

*finds soulmate* *swipes left in hopes of finding a hotter soulmate*

Overall, both experts agree that dating apps have worked out positively for single people, since they've expanded the number of potential partners people can meet. But they are really only helpful if you use them wisely, Taitz says. "I think to feel connected, we really need to give someone our full attention and really be totally present in the moment with a person," she says. "A lot of times with dating apps, if you're meeting someone tonight and then there's someone else that saw you last night, then you might be giving people only partial attention." Try not to compare dates if you're seeing more than one person, don't assume the other person is dating other people, and don't start swiping through apps while your date uses the bathroom, Taitz says.

Also go into your dates with an open and empathetic mindset. This is a chance to get to know someone. They could ultimately be just a new friend, and that's perfectly fine, Taitz says. "It's tough because I think a lot of people ... are almost disconnected from the fact that the person sitting across from them has feelings and emotions. It's not just a game where it's racking up how many people will respond to you in the shortest amount of time," she says. "It's really, 'Can I make this person feel like a decent human being — like an accomplished person that's worth paying attention to?'"

8. Allow yourself to be vulnerable, and never go into a date with any kind of assumptions.

9. But also be honest with yourself about what you're looking for, and do your part.

10. Lastly, remember that finding your ~person~ is about luck and perseverance. If you haven’t found someone, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.

Now get out there and live your best single life!

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