Overall, both experts agree that dating apps have worked out positively for single people, since they've expanded the number of potential partners people can meet. But they are really only helpful if you use them wisely, Taitz says. "I think to feel connected, we really need to give someone our full attention and really be totally present in the moment with a person," she says. "A lot of times with dating apps, if you're meeting someone tonight and then there's someone else that saw you last night, then you might be giving people only partial attention." Try not to compare dates if you're seeing more than one person, don't assume the other person is dating other people, and don't start swiping through apps while your date uses the bathroom, Taitz says.
Also go into your dates with an open and empathetic mindset. This is a chance to get to know someone. They could ultimately be just a new friend, and that's perfectly fine, Taitz says. "It's tough because I think a lot of people ... are almost disconnected from the fact that the person sitting across from them has feelings and emotions. It's not just a game where it's racking up how many people will respond to you in the shortest amount of time," she says. "It's really, 'Can I make this person feel like a decent human being — like an accomplished person that's worth paying attention to?'"