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What does BDSM mean? sakkmesterke / Getty Images Bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism Correct Incorrect Bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism Bondage and domination, submission and masochism Correct Incorrect Bondage and domination, submission and masochism Bondage and daddies, sadism and mommies Correct Incorrect Bondage and daddies, sadism and mommies Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism Correct Incorrect Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism Correct! Wrong! Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. Ok, so it's not 100% an acronym, but all of these terms are combined because BDSM can be lots of different things for different people — everyone has their own unique preferences. Most of the time, a person's interests will fall into one or two of those categories, rather than all of them. When would someone use a "safe word"? MATJAZ SLANIC / Getty Images When they want their partner to cuddle with them Correct Incorrect When they want their partner to cuddle with them When they want their partner to be more intense in the BDSM activity Correct Incorrect When they want their partner to be more intense in the BDSM activity When they want their partner to be less intense or stop the BDSM activity altogether Correct Incorrect When they want their partner to be less intense or stop the BDSM activity altogether When they want to include a third person in the BDSM activity Correct Incorrect When they want to include a third person in the BDSM activity Correct! Wrong! When the submissive partner wants the dominant partner to be less intense or stop the BDSM activity altogether. While a "safe word" usually means that the submissive partner wants the dominant partner to stop the activity, some partners might agree upon another word that indicates they want the experience to be less intense. Someone who participates in "vanilla" sex _____. rattodisabina / Getty Images Enjoys eating vanilla ice cream and/or having it spread on their body during sex Correct Incorrect Enjoys eating vanilla ice cream and/or having it spread on their body during sex Usually doesn't get involved in BDSM/fetish activities Correct Incorrect Usually doesn't get involved in BDSM/fetish activities Has a fetish for only white people Correct Incorrect Has a fetish for only white people None of the above Correct Incorrect None of the above Correct! Wrong! Someone who participates in "vanilla" sex usually doesn't get involved in BDSM/fetish activities. And just FYI, it's not meant to be a derogatory term at all. "Sensual domination" involves submitting to another person's wishes and gaining pleasure from it, but... sakkmesterke / Getty Images There is never any violence, aggression, or humiliation involved Correct Incorrect There is never any violence, aggression, or humiliation involved None of the partners are allowed to touch each other Correct Incorrect None of the partners are allowed to touch each other There are never any tools, like ropes and blindfolds, involved Correct Incorrect There are never any tools, like ropes and blindfolds, involved The sub also has no say in when the activity will stop Correct Incorrect The sub also has no say in when the activity will stop Correct! Wrong! Sensual domination doesn't involve violence, aggression, or humiliation. Though there may still be tools — and maybe even mild pain — involved, these are never meant to push the submissive's limits. Rather, they are meant to complement the pleasure. And even though there isn't pain involved, people taking part in sensual dominance should still agree on a safe word just in case the interaction takes the sub out of their comfort zone. Tell us what a "scene" is. Alija / Getty Images When you seek out a professional to help you act out one of your fetishes Correct Incorrect When you seek out a professional to help you act out one of your fetishes When you and your partner role play Correct Incorrect When you and your partner role play When you use chains, whips, and gags on your partner Correct Incorrect When you use chains, whips, and gags on your partner When you and your partner partake in psychological play, without actually having intercourse Correct Incorrect When you and your partner partake in psychological play, without actually having intercourse All of the above Correct Incorrect All of the above Correct! Wrong! All of the above can be considered scenes. That's because a "scene" is any situation in which BDSM activity is taking place. It can include anything from role play and spanking to domination with or without a professional. It's also true that sexual intercourse isn't always part of the deal. The term "switch" refers to which of the following? Asian / Getty Images A rod, typically made from wood, that's used for punishment Correct Incorrect A rod, typically made from wood, that's used for punishment A person who sometimes participates in BDSM as a dominant and other times as a submissive Correct Incorrect A person who sometimes participates in BDSM as a dominant and other times as a submissive When you pause in the middle of a BDSM scene to pee, drink water, answer a phone call, etc Correct Incorrect When you pause in the middle of a BDSM scene to pee, drink water, answer a phone call, etc When, during a threesome with one dom and two subs, the dom tells the sub who's watching to switch places with the other Correct Incorrect When, during a threesome with one dom and two subs, the dom tells the sub who's watching to switch places with the other A and B Correct Incorrect A and B Correct! Wrong! It's A and B. A "switch" can refer to a rod used for punishment OR a person who participates in BDSM as either a dominant or submissive, but at different times. A top could refer to a dom or a ____, while a bottom could refer to a sub or a ____. PeopleImages / Getty Images Punisher; cryer Correct Incorrect Punisher; cryer Giver; taker Correct Incorrect Giver; taker Sadist; masochist Correct Incorrect Sadist; masochist Hater; lover Correct Incorrect Hater; lover Correct! Wrong! It's sadist and masochist. Sadists enjoy inflicting pain and masochists enjoy receiving it. The acronym "SSC" represents a pillar of BDSM practice. What does it stand for? PeopleImages / Getty Images Guess I give up! Correct! Wrong! Safe, sane, consensual BDSM is all about safety and consent. That includes going into each scene on the same page as your partner(s), honoring safe words when they're said, and of course, being as safe as possible during the entire thing. Psycholagny is when you reach orgasm through ____. volkovslava / Getty Images Mental stimulation and fantasy alone Correct Incorrect Mental stimulation and fantasy alone Hypnosis Correct Incorrect Hypnosis A conversation with a therapist Correct Incorrect A conversation with a therapist Controlled stimulation that keeps you on the cusp of orgasm, aka edging Correct Incorrect Controlled stimulation that keeps you on the cusp of orgasm, aka edging Correct! Wrong! Psycholagny is the ability to reach orgasm through mental stimulation and fantasy alone. No physical stimulation necessary. After a BDSM scene, a sub might be in a state of mind known as... timmyperez / Getty Images Subheading Correct Incorrect Subheading Subspace Correct Incorrect Subspace Subclarity Correct Incorrect Subclarity Subdual Correct Incorrect Subdual Correct! Wrong! Subspace It's described as the "natural high" that a bottom might have after an intense physical or emotional experience. It might be so strong, actually, that the sub might even feel disconnected from space, time, and/or their body, and their ability to communicate might not be 100%. When a sub is in that state of mind, it's important for their dom to provide what? Xebeche / Getty Images Body worship Correct Incorrect Body worship Dominant assurance Correct Incorrect Dominant assurance A reality check Correct Incorrect A reality check Aftercare Correct Incorrect Aftercare Correct! Wrong! Aftercare Subspace can be an especially vulnerable moment for the bottom, and depending on how intense the scene was, the amount of time it takes for the sub to come back to reality can vary. Aftercare might be necessary for one or both partners, as it allows them to see to each other's emotional and physical needs outside of the scene. It can include being away from any sort of visual, auditory, or physical stimulation; cuddling; providing food or drinks, like water; and more. 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