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People Are Dragging Men Who Say They Care About Rape Culture Because They Have A Daughter

"As the father of 25 daughters, I'm starting to think women might actually be people."

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As Hollywood has been rocked by the allegations of sexual assault against producer Harvey Weinstein, many actors have also come under fire. One is Matt Damon, who was accused by a female journalist of killing a story she was working on about Weinstein.

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The reporter, Sharon Waxman, wrote that her story was sanitized due to connections between Weinstein and the New York Times, where she was attempting to publish her piece.

Her story was to be about Fabrizio Lombardo, who was rumored to be a "procurer of women" for Weinstein.

"After intense pressure from Weinstein, which included having Matt Damon and Russell Crowe call me directly to vouch for Lombardo and unknown discussions well above my head at the Times, the story was gutted," she wrote.

Damon said that he would never condone Weinstein's behavior, especially after having four daughters.

Men who talk about Harvey keep mentioning their daughters like it finally gives them skin in this game

"Look, even before I was famous, I didn’t abide this kind of behavior. But now, as the father of four daughters, this is the kind of sexual predation that keeps me up at night. This is the great fear for all of us. You have a daughter, you know…" he said.

Men like Damon claiming they don't tolerate sexual assault because they have a daughter has become a common trope among males speaking out against sexual assault. But now people online are saying they need to cut it out.

"i have a daughter" is getting up there with "thoughts and prayers" https://t.co/OSDITkdtVW

People are tweeting that the line is getting super old.

for heaven's sake retire "as a father of daughters" rhetoric

And some of the tweets are going viral.

Dear Men, Please remove the phrase "as a husband and/or a father of daughters" from your vocabulary. Women exist outside your bubble.

They argue this is mainly because everyone should take sexual assault seriously, no matter if you're a father or not.

"But I'm a father of daughters!" is the new "but I have black friends!" https://t.co/AntbSpE47u

"PSA: If your reason for wanting to end rape culture is that you're 'the father of a daughter,' you need to reorient your moral compass," wrote one woman.

PSA: If your reason for wanting to end rape culture is that you're "the father of a daughter," you need to reorient your moral compass.

Others pointed out EVERYONE is responsible for ending rape culture.

"As a father of a daughter" yadda yadda yadda... How about: "As a father of a son, I'll teach him not to be a dick & respect women"...

"As the father of a daughter, I too am sick and damn tired of dads invoking daughters to condemn sexual predators, Really, it took dadhood?" one dad said.

As the father of a daughter, I too am sick and damn tired of dads invoking daughters to condemn sexual predators, R… https://t.co/RPjzRHVFJF

Other people decided to be a little more tongue-in-cheek.

imagine how shitty the men WITHOUT daughters must be. they can't even see women. they just see a gray outline like in that Black Mirror ep.

"As the daughter of a father and mother to 2 dogs, I can honestly say I had no idea women are people too."

As the daughter of a father and mother to 2 dogs, I can honestly say I had no idea women are people too

"As the father of 25 daughters, I'm starting to think women might actually be people."

As the father of 25 daughters, I'm starting to think women might actually be people

Basically, the phrase is over: "Don't give me that 'As a father of daughters' bullshit. You shouldn't have to have a daughter to realize women deserve better."

Don't give me that "As a father of daughters" bullshit. You shouldn't have to have a daughter to realize women deserve better

Stephanie McNeal is a social news editor for BuzzFeed News and is based in New York.

Contact Stephanie McNeal at stephanie.mcneal@buzzfeed.com.

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