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    18 Ridiculous Messages Men Have Actually Sent Me On OkCupid

    There are numerous ways to approach someone for the first time on dating site OkCupid. Here are a few examples of what NOT to do.

    1. Be original.

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    A message solely referring to a woman's appearance is not going to get you a response. Also, omitting spelling, capitalisation and punctuation is just lazy.

    2. Women are more than body parts.

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    Yes, ALL women want to know that you think their most important feature is their breasts.

    3. Speaking of body parts...

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    No, just no. Why would you ask such a thing?

    4. There might be a theme here...

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    Honest female opinion? If you're going to bring up penis size in an opening message, my opinion is that sex with you would undoubtedly be shit.

    5. Don't make assumptions about kink.

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    Dominant *eyes*? Whut? That's not even a thing.

    6. Opening with a description of a sexual position?

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    HELL NO.

    7. Don't ask for intimate contact.

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    Weird, much?

    8. Don't be creepy.

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    Seriously, WTF?

    9. Again with the creepy...

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    "Our future"? Not in this lifetime.

    10. Don't rush things.

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    You've looked at my profile for a whole "minute" and you think I should be your "wife"? Let's get married this INSTANT.

    11. You want to WHAT on a first date?

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    Go get your cuckolding kicks elsewhere. Also, women don't need men to buy them shit, OK?

    12. Don't compare women to cars.

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    I'll give you "scrapyard", mate.

    13. Don't try for a threesome.

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    Or, at least, if you do, don't send the email whilst your girlfriend is away. Offering photos of her without her being around, and giving her consent, is shitty behaviour. If she really "wants it more" than you do, then the email should come from her, too.

    14. Into kink? Don't be a dick.

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    Try being nice (even if you are a sadist in bed).

    15. Don't call a woman "stupid as fuck".

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    Otherwise you'll find your email shared with millions of people.

    16. The "model" pick-up line needs to die a quick death.

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    Does it ever work?

    17. Negging is so 2005.

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    18. Try some humour.

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    Spreadsheets FTW.

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