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    39 Valentine’s Day Gifts For Your Significant Other That Are Actually Gifts For Yourself

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    1. A pair of sweat-proof Bluetooth headphones so your partner stops "borrowing" yours when they want to work out.,

    These headphones come with three sets of ear tips (small, medium, and large) as well as a carrying case.

    Promising review: "Fantastic sound quality, pairs easily. Works with all my apps on phone, tablet, laptop, and desktop (with Bluetooth adapter). This includes Google Voice and Google Meeting. These hold a charge very well, after the first charge, they lasted about a week with about an hour or two of daily usage. Girlfriend likes these better than her AirPods, and she really only buys Apple accessories. Buttons are easy to identify for volume by touch. For under $20, can't be beat." —Justin Everett

    Get them from Amazon for $19.98 (available in seven colors).

    2. A three-piece lingerie set by Savage x Fenty that'll be a visual feast for your bae *and* you, because you know you look good 😏 — self-love first!

    Savage x Fenty

    This set includes a cupless bra, a bralette, and a matching thong.

    Get the set from Savage x Fenty for $25.

    3. An expensive-looking wristwatch for reminding your perpetually late S.O. to show up to the movies on time. (I don't want to miss the previews, okay?!)


    Promising review: "This watch is amazing for the price!!! I was looking for a watch that can be worn both day-to-day and to semi-formal/formal events, and this one fits the bill. I was instantly impressed by the nice presentation of the box that the watch came in, and sizing it to my wrist was really easy with the included tool! I have not noticed any wear or tear as of yet, and I work in a hands-on environment. I would recommend this to anyone who wants to look classy but, like me, does not have the money to actually be classy. The movement of the watch is smooth, and it stays accurate once the time is set." —sir edgar

    Get it from Amazon for $25.99 (available in 11 finishes).

    4. Shaker & Spoon — a monthly cocktail subscription box any booze lover will be glad to recieve. And who will they share the finished product with? You, of course!


    Each box contains three unique recipes by top bartenders and everything you need to make 12 drinks (four from each recipe) other than the liquor — syrups, bitters, mixers, garnishes, and more.

    Promising review: "We just got our first box, and my husband and I loved it! I’m not big on beer, and my husband's not big on cocktails, but this was still a hit for both of us! On a side note, this was my first drink in over a year (I just had a baby two months ago), and this box made it extra fun and special. It basically created a fun date-like activity for two people who NEVER get to go out on dates anymore!" —Tricia

    Get a subscription from Cratejoy for $40/month.

    5. A couple of tickets to a concert or sports game so you can create a precious shared experience — happy memories are probably the best gift of all!

    Bernardbodo / Getty Images

    Get tickets to events in your area from Ticketmaster.

    6. A cold brew maker that'll encourage them to make more coffee (which you also get to enjoy). Plus, you'll both save money on Starbucks!


    Check out our review of the Takeya cold brew iced coffee maker!

    Promising review: "I bought this for my iced coffee–loving boyfriend as a gift, and we both love it. It requires quite a bit of coffee (six tablespoons of beans pre-ground), but that's because it makes cold brew concentrate. You dilute it with water (hot or cold), milk, or ice to your strength liking. You can keep the cold brew in the fridge for up to two weeks — not that it lasts us that long." —M. McCollam

    Get it from Amazon for $17.99.

    7. Conversation cards for learning new things about each other, whether you just started dating or have been in a relationship for years.


    Promising review: "My boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship. I bought this so we had more to talk about than the typical have-a-good-day texts. I mailed him half, and I kept the other. Every day we each text one another a question from our deck. It's a great way to stay connected and learn more about one another. I look forward to seeing what his answer will be and what my question will be for the day. Love this product!" —jessica

    Get it from Amazon for $25.

    8. An extremely cool Blade Runner–inspired umbrella (with a light-up LED shaft) because you never remember to bring one yourself and it's much more romantic to share an umbrella anyway.


    It's powered by three AAA batteries and has seven LED color options. There's an on/off button as well as a flashlight on the bottom!

    Promising review: "This umbrella ROCKS! It was a gift for my husband. It dries quickly so he doesn't have to carry around a dripping umbrella. The 'saber' aspect of it has the option to choose a color or even have them alternate. They all look really vivid and beautiful, especially at night. The flashlight on the bottom is really helpful at night when we're walking our dog, too. My husband gets tons of comments on this umbrella, and I plan to buy more in the future. Really, it's the coolest umbrella ever." —TrivialShark388

    Get it from Amazon for $28.99 (available five colors).

    9. A Fitbit with a silent alarm feature so they won't wake you up when they go on their 7 a.m. run.


    Promising review: "I fought with myself for a year trying to decide if I wanted to spend that much on a glorified watch. I finally made myself do it, thinking it would help me stay active. It does that and so much more! I use it as a silent alarm so that I wake up in the mornings without waking the whole house. The bands can be switched out so that it goes with anything. You can connect with friends and do challenges. It tracks your sleep patterns and your heart rate. You can get notifications to move or exercise. The thing even connects to your phone so that you know when you are getting text messages and calls without carrying your phone everywhere. This is worth the money for sure!" —cortney

    Get the large size from Amazon for $78+ (available in two sizes and six colors).

    10. A Briogeo deep conditioning hair mask (formulated with rosehip, sweet almond, and argan oils plus vitamin B5 and biotin) that'll give your partner the softest, shiniest mane ever — plus, you can steal some in the shower for yourself.


    This cruelty-free hair mask is safe for color-treated, keratin-treated, chemically treated, and relaxed hair.

    Promising review: "I would give this 10 stars if I could. I used it for the first time today after years of wanting to try it, my hair hasn't felt this full and amazing in a very long time. A little bit goes a long way so no need to use too much at the time." —sharinag

    Get it from Briogeo for $36.

    11. A low-maintenance countertop garden to provide them with an endless supply of fresh herbs, which equals homemade pesto for both of you to eat.


    The kit includes the countertop garden, Genovese basil, curly parsley, dill, mint, thyme, Thai basil, and Miracle-Gro plant food. I actually own the Goodful Aerogarden and can confirm that it's super duper easy to use, even for a beginner like me. It automatically alerts you when the plants need more food or water, so you don't need a green thumb for it to work. Plus, the herbs grow crazy fast, so you'll be able to use them for cooking in no time. Read my full review!

    Here's an excerpt: "I've never had a countertop garden before so I wasn't sure what to expect. But I am happy to report that after two weeks, ALL of the herbs have sprouted and the seedlings are in excellent shape — with basically zero effort on my part!" –Yi Yang

    Get it from BuzzFeed's Goodful line, exclusively at Macy's for $129.99 (available in three colors).

    12. A dual-thickness comforter with a warm side and a cool side for couples who have completely different body temperatures. Now you can both sleep soundly without shivering or sweating profusely.


    Promising review: "This comforter is a game changer. He’s always cold and I’m always hot...finally a comforter that works for us both! Looks great in our duvet and no one can tell that it has two thicknesses." —Anonymous

    Get it from Amazon for $119.99+ (available in two sizes and four colors).

    13. And a plush gel memory foam mattress as an upgrade to the creaky, slightly sagging one you currently share. The best part is it has good motion isolation, meaning you'll be less affected by your bedmate's tossing and turning. Light sleepers rejoice!

    Mattress Firm

    Promising review: "My old mattress was five years old and I was always tossing and turning trying to get comfortable. Now with this mattress I can get a full night's rest! It took me 20 minutes to maneuver it out of the box, cut the layers of plastic off, and unroll it. Once you get it out in the open, it is easy to set up because it will unroll itself. The mattress itself is very comfortable. It has just the right amount of firmness and plush that forms to your body. If my boyfriend is tossing and turning, I can hardly feel him moving, whereas in my old bed the movement would wake me up. I am so thankful to get a full night's sleep where I am comfortable and not waking up with body aches." —NicoleH

    Get it from Mattress Firm for $312.50+ (available in sizes twin–California king).

    Plus, you can save 14% on Blanquil weighted blankets with code CUFFING now at!

    14. An Instax Square so your boo can take amazing pics...of you.

    Urban Outfitters

    Promising review: "I've owned a lot of versions of the Instax cameras, and this one is by far the best one. More options, easier to use, and better quality than past cameras." —rayg27

    Get it from Amazon for $99.99+ or Urban Outfitters for $99 (available in six colors).

    15. A kombucha starter kit that'll easily make enough brew for two. Plus, the probiotic cultures will literally last forever — like your love.


    This kit includes a one-gallon glass jar, tight-weave cotton cloth jar cover, organic black tea, organic cane sugar, tea bag, and a claim code for a SCOBY (Symbiotic Culture of Bacteria and Yeast) which will be sent to you free of charge (sending the SCOBY separately when you're ready to brew the kombucha ensures that is fresh and healthy when it arrives). One SCOBY can brew infinite batches of kombucha!

    Get it from Uncommongoods for $40.

    16. A bacon-curing kit because they love bacon almost as much as they love you. And hopefully, part of loving you means sharing the bacon they made.

    Man Crates

    It comes with an instruction manual, secret rub recipe, bacon cure, hickory smoker bag, and dial meat thermometer. All you need to buy is the pork belly!

    Promising review: "10 out of 5 stars!! My fiancé loved it so much that he kept asking me if the site sold the belly rub and curing salt separately because he refuses to buy store packaged bacon now!" —Ashli

    Get it from Man Crates for $29.99.

    17. A smartphone clip-on lens kit for taking amazing couple selfies on your next trip.


    This kit comes with an 180° fisheye lens, a 0.6x wide angle lens, and a 15x macro lens.

    Promising review: "Absolutely love it! It's amazing for my vacation photos. I can really get great shots of ancient ruins, take selfies of both me and my boyfriend that get nearly full body, and the shots come out awesome!" —Rosa

    Get the set from Amazon for $12.99.

    18. A silk sleep mask so they can go to bed early while you finish the last five chapters of a book.


    Read our review of this silk sleep mask (#11 on the list)!

    Promising review: "I bought this for my husband because I am a night owl and he is an early bird, and I feel like I am always disturbing his sleep by turning on lights as I am working on my computer, reading, or winding down for the night. He loves it and says it does a great job. It is silky smooth and has a simple elastic band around the back to keep it in place." —Amber Dengler

    Get it from Amazon for $12.99 (available in 22 colors/patterns).

    19. A set of long-distance lamps that'll light up simultaneously when touched so you know when your partner is thinking of you.


    Promising review: "As single parents in a long distance relationship (an hour away), it's a great way to let my girlfriend know I'm thinking about her and vice versa. Nothing is better than rolling over in the morning and seeing my light glow on its own with her color choice." —Buss

    Get a set of two from UncommonGoods for $170.

    20. A water-resistant portable speaker they'll probably leave in the shower...where you can use it to listen to your playlist, too.

    Promising review: "I gifted it to my nephew and when he synced up to it, I had to verify several times that his music was actually blasting from this little speaker. The sound quality was amazing! It stayed clear even at high volume levels. I spent $120 on a Bluetooth speaker for myself that is supposed to have quality sound, but the volume levels don't even compare!" —tqrangus

    Get it from Amazon for $19.99.

    21. A Fire HD 8 tablet for binge-watching your fave shows together in bed.


    Promising review: "I bought one of these for everyone in my family. These are very affordable tablets that have thousands of functions. The utility on these devices is outstanding for the price. I have connected my entire smart home to my tablet. My grandma uses hers to read and play puzzle games. My brother and kids play games on theirs. I stream Netflix, Hulu, and Amazon Video. I can use it for shopping and surfing the web. These tablets can be put into 'show mode' and essentially function as a $120 Echo Show." —Daniel Nelson

    Get it from Amazon for $79.99.

    22. A chic planner that'll help your partner get organized so they never forget important plans (like having dinner with your parents).


    Promising review: "This is the nicest planner I have purchased. I bought one for myself a few months ago, and my husband liked it so much that I got him one, too. We have multiple businesses so we are busy with daily tasks and this helps us prioritize and stay organized. Strongly recommended!" —Miriam

    Get it from Amazon for $10.99+ (available in two sizes).

    23. Blue Apron — a meal kit subscription to make cooking at home so much easier. Neither of you has to go out for groceries so just spend quality time preparing and enjoying the food together!

    The kits are available for two or four servings and the menu changes every week. There's a vegetarian plan as well.

    Get started at Blue Apron for $9.99/serving.

    24. A splurge-worthy pillow because you're tired of them stealing yours!


    Promising review: "Got this pillow for my wife after I had one for a few months, and she kept stealing it. That says something about the pillow right there. Give it a try!! Still going strong after a year+ of use!" —Steven Meuleman

    Get it from Amazon for $75+ (available in two sizes).

    25. A bottle of Mike's Hot Honey for your spice-loving sweetheart who will definitely share it with the generous human who gifted it to them.


    Promising review: "I originally bought this as a stocking stuffer for my husband, but I've probably eaten more of it than he has. The spice isn't overwhelming, so it's great to add to a number of dishes and recipes. I will be buying again!" —K. Vance

    Get it from Amazon for $6.99.

    26. A Friends hoodie you can have joint custody over since neither of you can decide who looks better in it.

    Urban Outfitters

    Promising review: "It’s one of my favorite hoodies to wear and it’s really comfortable. I got so many compliments every time I wear this." —alexgail

    Get it from Urban Outfitters for $59 (available in sizes S–XL).

    27. A sleep sound machine to 1) help your partner get better rest and 2) drown out the sound of their snoring so you can also get better rest.


    This sound machine has an actual fan inside so it won't produce any sound loops.

    Promising review: "Living in a turn-of-the-century home on the east coast is fun, but you hear creaks and steps and noise from the neighborhood and more. This has really changed my life (and sleep).

    This week, I packed Snooz in my backpack for an overnight business trip to NYC. Stayed at the Moxy in Times Square — nice little joint, but the street noise was a bit more than expected. (In fact, they leave little earplugs next to the bed). I thought, this is a perfect test!

    This little guy smoothed out the city noise all night and I woke around 8 a.m. to my alarm — and only then did I notice some truck from the street beep beeping while backing up. The Snooz had muffled it enough that I didn't notice it while asleep (and only heard it faintly once awake).

    Definitely worth it. Looking to get a couple more for the house/office." —Matt Smedley

    Get it from Amazon for $79.99 (available in two colors).

    28. A Nintendo Switch that'll be so much more fun with two players.


    Nintendo Switch is a hybrid console that lets you play on the TV at home or its smaller screen on the go. Each console comes with a Joy-Con grip, an HDMI cable, a Nintendo Switch AC adapter, a Nintendo Switch dock, Joy-Con (L) and Joy-Con (R), and two Joy-Con strap accessories. The Joy-Con can be used separately for two-player action, inserted into the Joy-Con grip like a traditional controller, held in each hand for left and right controls, or attached to either side of the Nintendo Switch!

    Promising review: "Nearly flawless design; great enough to sway the opinions of a Nintendo critic. Since purchasing it as a gift for my partner, I've ended up playing it more than he has. It's a switch in the right direction." —Julius D. Bautista

    Get it from Amazon for $327.90.

    29. A heated massager because sometimes your partner has a sore neck but your hands are tired and you just want to watch The Office.


    Promising review: "My wife loves it, maybe a little too much. She doesn't need me to massage her back anymore. It is a pretty tough massage, I was impressed, and you can feel the heat as well." —Character Counts

    Get it from Amazon for $29.99.

    30. A box of chocolate hedgehogs (with delicious hazelnut-flavored centers) you'll most likely eat half of. (Sorry not sorry, babe!)


    Promising review: "These are so good! They are creamy with a very distinct hazelnut taste. They melt voluptuously in you mouth. Not at all prickly like its namesake." —Rollande D.

    Get a 10-piece box from Purdys Chocolatier for $20.

    31. A custom map wall rack to hang all their essentials on so they'll stop asking, "Hey, did you see my keys?"


    You can get the map personalized for any location, like their hometown or even the place you met!

    Get it from UncommonGoods for $35.

    32. A scented candle that can be used as a moisturizing oil when melted — a great excuse for giving each other massages.

    The Grommet

    The medium size has a 30-hour burn time while the large size has a 50-hour burn time.

    Promising review: "Bought this candle as birthday gift. She was so happy with the candle and the fragrant smell that filled the room when she opened it without even burning it. It sits beside the kitchen sink and after washing dishes, using it on hands is the best." —Sandra

    Get it from The Grommet for $35+ (available in two sizes and six scents).

    33. An odor-absorbing stainless steel bar for your S.O. who loves fishing or cooking with garlic. No more stinky hands!


    Promising review: "This thing actually works! Both my husband and I have used this after chopping garlic, and it took the scent off of our hands completely. It also looks pretty sitting in our stainless steel spoon holder and matches our stainless kitchen. It's a win-win!" —Stephanie

    Get it from Amazon for $7.99.

    34. A knit beanie you'll definitely be stealing — I mean, borrowing — from them.

    Urban Outfitters

    Promising review: "I have a pretty big head so a lot of knit beanies look ridiculous on me but this one is thick and stretchy so it fit perfectly. Would work for anyone and it’s super comfortable. Plus, I never get itchy or cold in it." —Flynnah

    Get it from Urban Outfitters for $14 (available in four colors).

    35. An oversized throw blanket big enough to cover two people so you can snuggle up.


    Promising review: "My boyfriend likes to call this blanket his 'Game of Thrones cosplay blanket.' It's a big, luxurious, and suuuuper soft blanket. Honestly, I use this more than he does, and I bought it for him as one of his Christmas gifts! It's a heavy enough blanket to keep you warm while you're sleeping during the winter nights, but light enough to casually tow around the house when need be. The size of the blanket is perfect, and my boyfriend and I both love that it has two different sides for texture. I prefer the sherpa and he prefers the other faux-fur side. Would recommend this to anyone who is considering buying a gift (for either yourself or a loved one) because it is perfect!" —Scotty Bear!

    Get the king-size from Amazon for $59.88 (available in five sizes and 19 colors).

    36. A cookbook for two so they can experiment with yummy new dishes — and you get to be the taste tester.


    Promising review: "I love this cookbook. Since most of the time, I'm only cooking for my wife and I, most recipes in other books for giant family sized portions would be wasted on us. I've cooked everything from apps to entrees to soups to even cookies just for two. Literally every dish tastes fantastic, and we don't ever have to worry about any food waste." —Kody R. Latham

    Get it from Amazon for $25.56.

    37. A bottle of Poo-Pourri for banishing unpleasant fumes from your shared bathroom.


    Promising review: "Seriously, who has actually tried Poo-Pourri and not been amazed? My sister gave us little samplers for Christmas one year. It seemed like a crazy thing, a spray to avoid toilet odors. I figured it would just make it smell like, well, poo + flowers which is, in a way, worse than just poo. But no. Poo-Pourri has some magical property of completely eliminating any foul odors. The bathroom will actually smell better when you leave than when you entered. It's magic. It's amazing. It's marriage-saving. I won't vacation without it." —K. Carriere

    Get a four-ounce bottle from Amazon for $10.25 (available in seven sizes and 20 scents).

    38. A cast-iron skillet that might inspire them to bake a giant cookie, which you'll be glad to help them finish.


    This skillet measures 3.5 inches in diameter.

    Promising review: "Love these. I use them for individual cast-iron skillet cookies. They make a great presentation, and the best thing is I can cheat and use the refrigerated cookies so it's a quick on-hand dessert. With a scoop of ice cream, you are a star." —Cabinlife

    Get it from Amazon for $4.99.

    39. An activity bucket list scratch-off poster to give them plenty of ideas for future dates.


    Promising review: "The recipients of this poster loved the idea. They are an outgoing and adventurous couple. They said the would be hanging this in their office space and scratching them off as they complete them." —Veronica Lopez Ramirez

    Get it from Amazon for $13.51.

    When you find the perfect gift that *both* of you guys will enjoy:


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