People Are Sharing Their Automatic Deal Breakers (Even If The Person Is Perfect In Every Other Way), And It's Actually Super Insightful
"Went on a hiking date with someone who littered. There was no second date."
Ya know that feeling when you meet someone you think is perfect — or at least really vibe with — and then find out something about them that immediately makes you nope out?
So get ready to reflect, because here are some of the best responses they received:
2. "Entitled behavior."
"People who act like the world owes them everything when they were raised with more than most people. People who demand respect but treat others poorly." —u/bangcamaroxx
5. "Went on a hiking date with someone who littered. There was no second date."
"Don't litter y'all! It's selfish and ruins the trails for everyone else." —u/Quiet_talk
6. "Being obsessed with social media or needing to document everything all the time and project a perfect version of their life."
9. "When anyone cranks up their tiny phone speakers in public."
"I cringe so hard even thinking about those situations." —u/lapippin
11. "A girl told me she had been engaged six times. She was 29."
"I know things happen. But that’s a lot of things." —u/JackingOffToTragedy
12. "Someone who lies often as a tactic, to get what they want, to avoid consequences, etc."
"I had an ex who consistently lied and omitted things. Usually not about anything huge, but she had a habit of it and didn’t seem to think it was wrong. The longer we dated the worse it got. Eventually, it really divided us because I couldn’t trust anything she said." —u/wheresmychin
14. "Not being a critical thinker."
"I’ve thought of a whole laundry list of things that would be deal breakers, but they all boil down to whether or not he could think critically." —u/Whohead12
16. "A whiny voice."
"This one surprised me — about myself. The person had everything else going for them; but after a few hours, I just couldn't stand the thought of listening to that voice over the long haul." —u/komatiite
18. "He told me he would much rather make small talk with a stranger than have a deep conversation with good friends."
"I don't know why I didn't see it before, but that described perfectly why we never connected on a deeper level after being together for two years. We tried, but I couldn't make it work after that realization." —u/yuffieisathief
20. "Not being able to handle me when I'm depressed."
"My best friend's little sister died in a car crash, and I was torn up about it. My now-ex became indifferent toward me because I was 'too depressed to be with.'
If someone can't handle being a decent human being when I'm depressed, what are they going to act like when it's my mom? Dad? Dog, even? 'Whoops, sorry, but I don't wanna hang out because you're sad.'" —u/FireAsh47
21. "Being condescending."
"I hate it. It makes me angry. Be nice to people. Accept they may not be as knowledgeable as you on a subject. Don’t condescend." —u/Crazyboutdogs
"I eventually realized that her deeply dysfunctional relationship to objects extended to the people around her. I was not an actual person. I was just another acquisition that was acquired and subsequently treated shabbily. I'm not sure if this is common, but I won't take the chance again." —u/nibo001
23. "The need to constantly be on your phone."
"I'm totally fine with spending a lot of time on it; but if you can't put it down to watch a movie or have a conversation, then it's a problem." —u/Fisherman_Gabe
"If you notice the person you're interested in tells fibs or little white lies early on, it's only going to be catastrophic once you clear the honeymoon phase." —u/drknockb00ts
28. "Minimizing my accomplishments."
"I knew this woman; and if I said something like, 'I got a promotion at work,' instead of saying that it was great and that I was great at my job, she'd say something like, 'Yeah, well didn't you say Bill has really been helping you out with stuff?'" —u/Ethan-Wakefield
29. "Being casually mean or inconsiderate to people."
"Like cutting other cars off, taking a parking space that someone is waiting for, immediately leaving a conversation with someone when they see someone else more interesting." —u/JanuarySoCold
31. "He ALWAYS knew everything, even when it was obvious he didn’t."
"I had an ex who was not exactly condescending, but he never once said, 'Oh really? I didn’t know that!' in five years of a relationship." —u/NoMameMijito
32. "Criticizing my emotions."
"They would say, 'How come you don't express yourself?' And when I would proceed to express myself, 'You're being too emotional!' Fuck outta here with that shit." —u/Some_Hot_Garbage
33. "If the person you are dating makes you feel small."
"Not in a physical sense but like you’re less than them. I’ve learned that's my first sign to book it out of there." —u/abbyfromhr
34. "Bad table manners and disrespectful to family and friends."
"Especially speaking with your mouth filled with food you just chewed." —u/SeriesAdministrative
35. "My ex would always say, 'Oh no, you want to do this not that,' every time I talked about doing something one way."
"It even crossed over into me researching and buying gear for backpacking or biking, etc. He always seemed to know better than me, and I will not ever be able to be with someone again who tells me what to do, what to buy, or makes me feel like I don’t know what I’m doing." —u/shagcarpet3
37. "People who proudly mentioned they thought jealousy was important in a relationship."
"That's an automatic no from me. I don't want someone questioning every time I hang out with a friend or getting paranoid if I'm not in contact for more than a few hours." —u/IAmASolipsist
39. "Not having a capacity for compassion or empathy for others, including animals."
40. "If I'm in a depressive mood (I have depression), just telling me to 'get over it' or, better yet, getting mad at me for being sad."
42. "Being too clingy too quickly."
"Had a girl tell me she loved me after four hours of talking, asking why I’m not responding, etc. It was an absolute no." —u/yashmorar