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    16 Love Lessons From Actual Teenagers

    Asking teenagers for love advice.

    If there's one thing we're taught in this modern world of Tinder and trying to find The One, it's that love ain't easy. But a heart unscathed is a pure heart, so we asked teenagers their best love advice in the hope of finding something... uncontaminated.

    1. It's not all about material goods.

    2. Brovaries before ovaries, sistas before mistas.

    "Don't put your boyfriend or girlfriend before your best friend. You're less likely to break up with your friend!" —Harry*, 13

    No boyfriend or girlfriend is worth sacrificing your bestie for, Harry tells BuzzFeed Life. Yes it's intoxicating hanging out with a new beau 24/7, but your friends were there for you before, and will be there for you if it all goes wrong too.

    3. Trust is important, no matter how tempting it is to snoop on notifications.

    4. Force quit that app, or die trying.


    "Never live your life by the Whatsapp blue ticks or 'last seen'. It's soul-destroying." —Andy*, 19

    It's a waste of time, Andy tells BuzzFeed Life, as anyone who has spent hours held hostage waiting for a message to deliver or for a read receipt will know. Take Andy's advice, and be chill, dude.

    5. There's safety in numbers.

    6. Simple pragmatism is the way to go.

    7. Even famous people can be trouble when they walk in.

    "You have to remember that even Harry Styles is a normal guy, and nobody is perfect. I mean, Taylor Swift is singing about the boys everyone loves hurting her, and I doubt she's lying." —Sarah, 17

    Sarah tells BuzzFeed Life that there's no point idolising certain people, or putting them on a pedestal. Everyone makes mistakes, right?

    8. The struggle is real, but one day your Prince will come. #hopeful

    9. Grannies give the best advice.

    10. Make time for just the two of you.

    11. Be brave.

    12. You don't have to be together all the time.

    13. Love yourself before all others.

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    "Insecurity butchers love in my opinion.  You should love yourself wholly before entering a relationship — how can you love the entirety of another human being if you can't love yourself?" —Elinor, 16

    Elinor tells BuzzFeed Life that knowing and appreciating who you are is vital, because you can lose your sense of self in the haze of love.

    14. Hold on to the PDAs.

    15. Don't limit yourself.

    16. Overshare, if you want to.

    (Names with an * are pseudonyms.)

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