“Let today be the day you stop living within the confines of how others define or judge you~Steve Maraboli What is a man? This question asked to different people would receive different answers. There’s such a long checklist of things a man should be according to society. A man is to be a strong, masculine, emotionless, sports loving, have a hulk sculptured body, the provider, and the list goes on. What happens when a man tries to live up to all the expectations set before him by a society consumed with perception, selfishness, and materialistic. Health.com states there are more than 5 million men in the U.S. that experience depression each year. Men are known for keeping their feelings, emotions all bottled up. Without having a proper outlet for release, this could create a path to anger and sadness. Per huffingtonpost.com “Anger and sadness are an important part of life, and new research shows that experiencing and accepting such emotions are vital to our mental health. Attempting to suppress thoughts can backfire and even diminish our sense of contentment. Acknowledging the complexity of life may be an especially fruitful path to psychological well-being.” Dr. Peter Branney Holds a BSc in psychology and philosophy, an MSc in Psychological approaches to health and a Ph.D. in psychology. He is one of the authors of Big boys don't cry: Depression and men. Readers are taken on an in-depth journey of the build of a man and everything in between. From the beginning: The abstract, gender roles – “masked depression”, Hegemonic masculinity – “depression enacting gender,” The socialization of developing boys, the future, and the declarations. There have been many studies that have concluded that there are certain signs a man should look for in noticing he may be dealing with depression or a mental illness. Health.com list 12: Fatigue, Sleeping too much or too little, Stomachache or a Backache, Irritability, Difficulty Concentrating, Anger or Hostility, Stress, Anxiety, Substance Abuse, Sexual Dysfunction, Indecision, and Suicidal Thoughts. There is no one way to be a man; you define the person you want to be. Bottling up emotions and feelings lead to a dark place in which you could feel like you are carrying the world on your shoulders with no help. The good thing is there is help, and you are not the only man experiencing this. There are so many resources that are available to help guide you to beating your battle with depression or any other mental illnesses.