If you've been diagnosed with breast cancer, there are a lot of things you know are all-too real — things that people who haven't had the disease usually have no idea about. Rebecca Hendin / BuzzFeed Like the fact that men can get breast cancer. Digitalskillet / Getty Images It can also happen to people of all ages, including teens. And that sometimes, it just happens regardless of family history or health or diet, and you don't know why. Photovideostock / Getty Images It would be great if people would stop guessing how you got it — "Oh, is it because of soy/estrogen/the BRCA gene?" Or that the war-like language often applied to cancer — fighting, battling, conquered — implies that some people don't fight hard enough. Anna Borges / BuzzFeed And sometimes, you're too weak or exhausted to put up a "fight" — but it doesn't mean you don't care. Also, people don't realize that life after surviving breast cancer can be incredibly difficult. Yktr / Getty Images There might be debt, body image readjustment, altered personal relationships, and filling the void that cancer and its treatments filled for months or years, among many other things. Tell us what you wish people knew about breast cancer for a chance to be featured in an upcoming BuzzFeed Community post.