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    25 Very Real Struggles Of Making New Friends As An Adult

    Because lord knows that ain't easy.

    1. Making peace with the fact that you can't fall into friendships like you did in school and college.

    2. Planning your roommate situation so you can recreate college friendships!

    3. Resisting the urge to stay home with your non-human friends, Netflix and Pizza.

    4. Doing an internet search on "How to make friends as an adult."

    5. Working out the best places to meet your potential friends.

    6. Keeping your inner child under wraps so as to attract more "mature" friends.

    7. Making smiling a full-time job because, you know, it makes you more approachable and stuff.

    8. Crafting tactics to approach people and then learning to deal with not being noticed.

    9. Bumping into someone awesome at a random place, exchanging numbers, and never hearing from them again.

    10. Having to make awkward small talk so you can hurry up and get to the friendship part.

    11. Watching your social skills inexplicably disappear.

    12. Figuring out how to turn co-workers into real friends.

    13. Trying the direct approach, because you are a goddamn adult.

    14. Resorting to bribing tactics, like bringing cupcakes to work.

    15. Observing how other adults have managed to form meaningful friendships so you can replicate it.

    16. Trying to make weather talk kick-start a friendship.

    17. Gathering the courage to hang out with a new person for the first time.

    18. Being naive enough to think that one great hangout = best buddies for life.

    19. Dealing with your parents setting you up on "friendship" dates.

    20. Having your college friends do the same.

    21. Finding out that "Let's hang out soon" really means it's never going to happen!

    22. Learning to speak about yourself because how else are people going to get to know you?

    23. Reducing the list of things you look for in a good friend.

    24. Putting yourself out there, getting out of your head, and trying new things.

    25. And finally continuing to hang in there knowing that at some point you're bound to strike friendship gold.