A Canadian Teen Wrote The Best Rebuttal After Getting Detention For Wearing A Halter Dress

"I'm tired of the unjust standards that we as women are held up to."

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Seventeen-year-old Lauren Wiggins received detention for wearing a halter dress to her high school in New Brunswick. It was deemed "inappropriate" and a "sexual distraction."

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This was the full-length dress she wore to school on Monday. According to Wiggins, school officials told her the garment was a "sexual distraction" to fellow male students.

Shortly after, she took to Facebook to take a stand against the "unjust" standards the school's dress code has set for women.

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She writes:

"Today I received a detention because the outfit I am wearing is considered inappropriate and a sexual distraction to the young men in my school. Enough is enough. I'm tired of the unjust standards that we as women are held up to. I'm tired of the discrimination against our bodies, and I'm absolutely fed up with comments that make us feel like we can't be comfortable without being provocative. It's time to change the worlds mindset. Now."

Wiggins then openly shared the letter she wrote to the school's vice principal — which she later received a one-day suspension for.

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In it, she further iterates the "double standards" to which female and male students are held, and how the school's dress code is symptomatic of rape culture: "If you are truly so concerned that a boy in this school will get distracted by my upper back and shoulders then he needs to be sent home and practice self control," she wrote.

Here's the full transcript:

"Dear [Vice Principal] Sturgeon,
I have a concern I would like to bring to your attention. In today's society, a woman's body is constantly discriminated against and hypersexualized to the point where we can no longer wear the clothing that we feel comfortable in without the accusation and/or assumption that we are being provocative. This unjust mindset towards women is absolutely absurd. The fact that authority figures, especially males, can tell young women they must cover up their shoulders and their backs because it's "inappropriate" and "a distraction" is very uncomforting. Schools are the social building blocks in an adolescent's life meant to teach them how to communicate and develop relationships with others and also learning about themselves and who they want to be. It's preached upon us to be individual, to be ourselves. The double standard here is that when we try, we are then told we're wrong. We may not truly dress, act or speak how we want because authority figures, and I use that term very loosely such as yourself, tell us we can't. Yes, I understand there are restrictions to how much and how little of your body that shows, but that applies when people show up in their bikinis or bra and panties. Though I do believe women should legally be allowed to publicly be shirtless considering males are, it's mindsets like yours that keep that as something that is shamed upon. So no, Mr. Sturgeon, I will not search for something to cover up my back and shoulders because I am not showing them off with the intention to gain positive sexual feedback from the teenage boys in my school. I am especially not showing them to receive any comments, positive or negative, from anybody else besides myself because the only person who can make any sort of judgment on my body and the fabrics I place on it is me.
If you are truly so concerned that a boy in this school will get distracted by my upper back and shoulders then he needs to be sent home and practice self control.
Thank you, have a nice day."