Has being a "cool girl" left you feeling confused, alone, and single AF? Yeah, me too. When I say "cool girl" I mean the girls and myself included who let the guys in our life convince us that whatever is going on between us does not need a label and we ultimately reply with half confidence: "Oh! No way! Me too! I think relationships, and/or finding you're "soul mate" and all of that, to be overrated, let's just SEE where this goes". But really you already have your wedding dress, venue, and flowers picked out, and for the really organized gal, you probably already have your guest list and seating chart as well. And by "See", what you really mean is, "I am going to do whatever I can to get you to fall in love with me because I am borderline a psychopath, but I am just going to sweep that side of me under the rug until the time is appropriate" ( that's what you meant when you said you liked surprises, right?).
We hardly ever tell the guy how we feel out of fear that they will reject us thereby leaving us utterly dazed and confused. Do we tell them what we really want and hope to god they were secretly in love with us the whole time? Or do we keep our big mouths shut and hope they will come to their senses? Or do we say "hell with it" and move on and go back into the scary world of dating just so that we could do this all over again but with a different guy? #fullcircle. Honestly, I don't think any of those options are satisfying, but we are too "cool" to show that we care. Being a cool girl takes a lot of work and emotional intelligence in order to keep our bat-shit crazy self from coming up to the surface. Every time we are with the person that we so desperately want to be in a relationship with, we have to bury our unrequited feelings that makes us want to explode like a pizza pocket that has been in a microwave way too long (I'm assuming pizza pockets explode based on their commercials). That's exactly how it feels actually, and eventually we do explode and the person that you are seeing but not actually seeing says "this is why we aren't in a relationship, because your insane!" and you're back to square one, single AF.
Being a cool girl is not all that bad but, it's all fun and games until you find yourself alone on a Saturday night, in your one bedroom apartment with your dog, eating ice cream as if it was your last meal on planet earth, all because you literally have nothing better to do, because your lame as shit. I think if we were straight up honest with regards to what we really want from whatever "this" is we would be better off. If the guy you are seeing but not actually seeing seriously does not want a relationship then give him exactly that which is NO relationship at all, cut off all communication, Hasta la vista, baby! He either wants to be with you and only you or he doesn't. No more of "let's just see where this goes" BS. If a guy wants to be with you, trust me, he will be with you no matter what is going on in his life. Us cool girls will always be cool because we are awesome AF #sorrynotsorry, but let's just not be the "other" type of cool girl, kk? And to any guy who comes across this: Oh Hi! How are you? Oh you want to date me, but not actually date me? THANKS BUT NO THANKS.