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    We Got Some Behind-The-Scenes Secrets From Netflix's "Dating Around" And We're Willing To Share

    The casting team scouted at random NYC bars, bridge clubs, activities, and offices.

    Lately, we've been pretty consumed by Netflix's new dating show, Dating Around, which follows several New Yorkers on five first dates in hopes that one leads to a second date.

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    And since we had some burning questions about the show — such as, "Why were the lead daters wearing the same outfits on each date?" amongst others — we reached out to Dating Around's Executive Producer, Chris Culvenor, for answers.

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    So here's what we learned about the show:

    1. The casting team scouted at random NYC bars, bridge clubs, activities, and offices.

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    CULVENOR: We hired a casting company based in New York to spend four months looking for both the lead daters, and those people going on the dates with them. As we were looking for a diverse range of people, the casting team searched in a diverse range of places, everything from bars, to sporting activities, to bridge clubs, to office spaces.

    2. They set the lead daters up with people they believed they could've crossed paths with.

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    CULVENOR: We didn’t want to play matchmaker, but we did want to group people together who could believably meet and cross paths with each other in their dating life. Often in life, the people who we think would be a good match for us aren’t really, so by casting a diverse mix of people it was an opportunity for our lead daters to compare, contrast and properly consider who would be a good match for themselves.

    3. They didn't do interviews with the daters to help the audience "stay in the moment".

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    CULVENOR: We actively tried to avoid the tropes and tricks used in traditional dating shows. One specific choice we made was not to do any interviews with the daters. This allowed the audience to “stay in the moment” more, and meant that just like the people on the date, the audience is constantly guessing what the daters are really thinking.

    4. The lead daters wore the same outfit on every date for continuity purposes.

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    CULVENOR: They wore the same outfit so we could seamlessly cut between the various dates. This allowed us to stitch together five timelines into one sequence and ultimately allowed us compare and contrast the various experiences they had.

    5. The date spots were chosen largely based on where seemed authentic to their daters.

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    CULVENOR: It was a mix of logistical and creative decision making. From a logistical point-of-view, we needed locations that could house the production over the week of filming and were camera-friendly. From a creative standpoint, we wanted locations that were authentic to our daters, selecting restaurants and bars that they would naturally go to in their dating life.

    6. The producers LIVED for the awkward small talk.

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    CULVENOR: It was also important to include awkward introductions and small talk that happens at the start of dates. Most shows would edit this out, but it felt important to include because this awkward chat is always a part of a first date no matter how smooth you are!

    7. Each episode took one week to film.

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    CULVENOR: We shot each episode over the course of a week, with the lead dater going on a date with a new person each night.

    8. Leonard's dates were the most difficult to edit.

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    CULVENOR: As we captured five different dates over five nights, there was a huge amount of content that didn’t make the final cut. We tried to include all the highlights of each date from the romantic to the awkward, and wanted to capture the essence of each date as closely as possible. Personally, I could listen to Leonard and the women he dated chat about their life experiences for hours…so that was probably the hardest one to cut down.

    9. They wanted to cast people you wouldn't normally see on reality shows.

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    CULVENOR: We actively sought out people who you wouldn’t traditionally see on reality shows and avoided anyone who felt like they were after 15 minutes of fame. Once we had selected our lead daters, we wanted to send them on dates with people who they could've easily bumped into at a bar, or swiped right on.

    And if you haven't yet, check out the amazing Dating Around on Netflix!!!!!!!!!