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    Updated on Sep 9, 2020. Posted on Sep 8, 2020

    Michelle Obama Said "You Can't Tinder Your Way Into A Long-Term Relationship," And A Lot Of People Begged To Differ

    Or...can you?

    Just as she's about to celebrate her 28th(!!!!!!) wedding anniversary with her hubby Barack, Michelle Obama decided to offer some dating advice on her most recent episode of the Michelle Obama Podcast — and THANK GOD, RIGHT??!?!!?

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    Conan O'Brien, who's been married for 18 years himself, joined her on the episode to talk all things marriage and relationships.

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    Mostly, Michelle and Conan spent the time addressing how all relationships require real work — Michelle even likened choosing a spouse to "picking your basketball team."

    While they gave A LOT of great advice, there was one thing that made a lot of listeners scratch their heads — when Michelle said, "You can't Tinder your way into a long-term relationship."

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    Her direct quote was: "There’s no magic way to make that happen except getting the basics of finding somebody, being honest about wanting to be with them, to date them seriously, to plan on making a commitment, to date them, seeing where it goes, and then making it happen. You can’t Tinder your way into a long-term relationship."

    So when People Magazine tweeted out their article about her quote, uh...

    Michelle Obama Gives Dating Advice: 'You Can't Tinder Your Way into a Long-Term Relationship'​ https://t.co/n4qSFp5eT7

    ...let's just say a lot of people lit up the responses and begged to differ.

    @people i met my mans on tinder and we just had our one year. Michelle ily but w all due respect but you got wifed up long before tinder existed

    Me: found my boyfriend of 2.5+ years on Tinder. We bought a condo this summer and are currently looking at engagement rings sooooo idk what to tell you @MichelleObama but i think i did just fine off Tinder 😏🥰 https://t.co/DwGCmFOzSt

    @people I beg to disagree @MichelleObama My husband and I are going on 4 years strong, after meeting on Tinder♥️

    Sacia Matthews

    @people Met on tinder! 2 years strong 🤪 that’s my bestie

    Now, I'm sure Michelle meant it as more of a metaphor, implying that love takes a lot more than just a swipe, but I mean, why are people still hating on online dating in 2020?!?!?!

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    Love you though, Michelle!!!!!!!!

    So what do you think? Can you actually "Tinder your way into a long-term relationship"? Let us know in the comments!!!

    Listen to the full podcast episode here.

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