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7 Essays To Read This Week: Baby Photos, "Girl Movies," And Kurt Cobain

This week, Larissa Pham wrote about growing up in a family that never spoke of mental illnesses. Read that and other essays from Pigeons and Planes, The Cut, Jezebel, and more.

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1. "I Watched My Ex Fall in Love With Someone Else on Facebook" — BuzzFeed Ideas

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Kirsten King wrote a too-real essay about watching an ex move on via Facebook. In it, she remembers the break-up and the months of self-inflicted torture that followed. "I saw their relationship go the places ours had gone and to places it had not," she writes. Read it at BuzzFeed Ideas.

2. "Discovering My Blackness Through Nirvana" — Pigeons and Planes

In a poignant essay for Pigeons and Planes, Elijah Watson recalls a childhood spent listening to Nirvana and pondering questions about his identity. Paying tribute to Kurt Cobain, Watson writes, "I became uncomfortable in my own skin, trying to adapt to a type of blackness that wasn’t my own. But Cobain made me feel all right with myself." Read it at Pigeons and Planes.


3. "All About Me" — The Hairpin

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Anupa Mistry wrote about the years she spent hating the way she looked — and when she later realized that insecurity is just a state of mind and not an actual existence. In an essay inspired by a tweet from Earl Sweatshirt and Kim Kardashian's Selfish, Mistry explains beauty privilege and how Kardashian's book of selfies actually displays a whole lot of security and ballsiness. Read it at The Hairpin.

4. "We Don’t Talk About Mental Illness in My Family" — BuzzFeed Ideas

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Mental illnesses were never something Larissa Pham's family spoke of. It wasn’t until Pham mentioned her depression to her mother that she finally found a family member to confide in. "We tamed that wild fox together. It didn’t make my depression any easier, but at least it was a pain we could articulate," she writes in a devastating essay for BuzzFeed Ideas. Read it at here.

5. "What Are You Really Looking For in Other People's Baby Photos?" — Jezebel

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There's a lot more to baby photos than chubby cheeks. "The way photos are read, and the messages people receive from them, say a lot about the anxieties and priorities of our time; the subtext is almost always class," writes Kathryn Jezer-Morton. In a piece for Jezebel, Jezer-Morton breaks down how we perceive the baby pictures that flood our feeds. Read it at Jezebel.

6. "The Triumph of the ‘Girl Movie’" — The Cut

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Ann Friedman wrote about the appeal and triumph of "girl movies." For The Cut, she writes, "The movies that teen girls love become classics because they are so much more than films: They are bonding opportunities. Girl movies inspire such fervent fandom because they are seamlessly woven into young female friendships with each reblog and sleepover screening." Read it at The Cut.

7. "Don't Let Them See Your Tampons" — The Atlantic

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Some women go to great lengths to conceal their tampons. But why the urge to keep feminine products hidden? Julie Beck pondered and did some research on this curious tendency. Read her piece at The Atlantic.

Want to read more? Here are some other essays BuzzFeed published this week.

Erik Raschke wrote about his dream home in the Netherlands — and how Vladimir Putin is destroying it. Susan Cheng (hi!) looked back on a childhood spent inside her family's Chinese restaurant. Daniel Nester defended "vaguebooking" as a way for us to stay sane in the digital world. Anne Helen Petersen critiqued Entourage and the film's toxic use of homophobia as comedy. Priya Krishna and Kate Taylor ranked 50 Disney Channel Original Movies according to how feminist they are. For BuzzFeed LGBT, John Sherman wrote about the lube problem depicted during gay male sex scenes. And finally, Meredith Talusan explained why trans women care about Caitlyn Jenner's pronouns.

Susan Cheng is an entertainment reporter for BuzzFeed News and is based in Los Angeles.

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