People who have toxic relationships with their siblings are coming together in a viral thread on Reddit — and though their stories are painful to read, they're making many people online feel a little less alone.
Here are some of the top-voted responses.
Note: These stories may be disturbing to some readers, and describe violence, drug use, and animal harm.
2. "He pushed me into the sliding glass door because I didn't know if the phone had rung or not. After about five minutes of him yelling about the phone, I snapped and said, 'Just leave me the fuck alone.' And his response was to shove me. Cracked the glass and everything. For reference, I was 12, and he was 23."
3. "He threw a fit and broke his phone when my parents didn't give him money for cigarettes and beer. He was 36 at that time."
4. "My brother attempted to ruin my life because I wouldn’t stay quiet about our father being a pedophile. He rallied the family to harass me into silence."
5. "Tried to burn the house down with me in it. I found out through the police blotters in the newspaper because my parents thought it would upset me."
6. "Pretended to be pregnant (she was a teenager at the time) the night before my siblings’ big school exam finals and my 21st birthday. Presumably because the attention wasn’t on her, as a school dropout with no job at the time."
7. "My older brother once sat on me and mummified me with duct tape, and then left me outside in 30-degree weather while he played PS2 with headphones on. He taped my hands and feet together first, and then the rest of me. I couldn't even fight back. I was left that way until our mom got home a few hours later and grounded the shit out of him."
8. "Found out my brother and his wife were not separated and getting a divorce — something he'd been telling the whole family for over a year and she knew nothing about, until I inadvertently said something to her."
9. "He posted on Facebook that my mother had passed away just to get sympathy likes. She was sick but not yet dead, and I had to wake up and handle the massive freakout from relatives and friends. He then claimed he hadn't known it would be 'taken' that way, even though people were sending him public condolences and talking about her in the past tense."
10. "My sister had a nice job working for the FBI. Her job was to do background checks on people in need of security clearance. There was a guy she knew and liked, a cruise ship captain, who needed to renew his clearance. To try to get him pissed at his girlfriend, my sister added items to his girlfriend's criminal record. Since it was a renewal, the guy escalated it, and what my sister did was discovered. She was convicted and sent to federal prison for a year."
11. "While my mom was dying of lung cancer, unable to move and in horrible pain, my junky brother stole all of her opioid bandages. She even kept them under her pillow, so no one could have access to them. He would bend to kiss her and sneak his hand under to grab them."
12. "My younger sister grabbed the wheel while I was driving, and we almost went into a ditch. I asked her why she did that. She told me she wanted to see my reaction."
13. "My younger brother threatened to murder me and my mother with a hammer he found after he couldn’t find a bat. He started a countdown from 10… Thankfully, since he’s had major blowups most of his life, I’d begun recording them shortly before this one. We’re alive, and he’s in jail."
14. "When I was maybe 6 or 7, my older sister (she was around 12 or 13 at the time) decided one day she wanted to see what the inside of a turtle's shell looked like. She had found a turtle in our backyard and took it up to our dad's shed, where he had a little concrete slab in front of the doors to the shed. She started slamming the turtle down on the concrete until she cracked his shell open several times. Blood was everywhere. It died of course. This is my first traumatic memory I have of my childhood. She told me she would kill me if I told our parents."
16. "My brother, who was 19 at the time, got a 15-year-old girl pregnant. I was only 10, but later found out that they had to go across state lines to Missouri to get married, because Illinois wouldn't allow it. Otherwise, he'd have gone to jail for statutory rape. Yeah, that marriage didn't last long."
18. "My sister, like our mother, had another kid specifically to try to fuck over her ex-husband during family court proceedings. It didn't work; she still lost custody of her firstborn son."
19. "Worst thing she ever did was when I was 15 and she was 19. She found my gay porn on the family PC and immediately showed it to our parents, thinking that they'd be pissed off and punish me for being gay."
20. "One of my sisters is serving life in prison for luring her drug dealer to her house, killing him, and then setting his car on fire with his body in it."
21. "My older sibling defrauded my family out of $300,000 to fund their weight-loss surgery, then got addicted to prescription drugs to cope with the pain, developed a hoarding problem, and had to get forced into rehab."
22. "For one, my older brother gets pissed really easily and once flipped over a glass table in our living room. Whole thing shattered and I cut my foot... Parents replaced it with custom-fitted glass, which was pretty expensive apparently."
23. "My sister stole my child's ADHD medication, causing him severe ramifications in school, both academically and socially. She was emptying the capsules, so I had no idea I was giving my child empty pills. For a YEAR."
24. "My brother is in prison for kidnapping, assault with a deadly weapon, evading arrest, attempted murder, possession of an illegal firearm, possession of a controlled substance, possession of a controlled substance with intent to distribute, manufacturing a controlled substance with intent to distribute, and as a cherry on top of the shit pile: rape. Here's the truly messed up thing: The rest of the family was surprised it wasn't worse."
You can read the full thread of responses on Reddit.
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse or feeling unsafe at home, the following resources may be helpful:
The 24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or chat with an advocate via the website.
If you are concerned that a child is experiencing or may be in danger of abuse, you can call or text the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-2253 (4.A.CHILD); service can be provided in over 140 languages.