Skip To Content
  • Quiz badge
  • Poll badge

Here Are 18 Controversial Things People Do In Friendships — Tell Me Whether They're Signs Of A Bad Friend

Ignoring calls, bailing on plans, forgetting birthdays, and more.

  1. 1. Ignoring a phone call because you don't feel like talking.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
1. Ignoring a phone call because you don't feel like talking.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. You should pick up the phone when a friend calls.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. Sometimes you're just not in the mood to be social.
  1. 2. Making up a fake excuse for why you're busy when, in reality, you just don't feel like hanging out.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
2. Making up a fake excuse for why you're busy when, in reality, you just don't feel like hanging out.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. Lying is messed up — just be honest about it.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. It's their business why they don't want to hang out — if they're more comfortable telling a white lie, so be it.
  1. 3. Venting to a third party about a friend when you're annoyed at them.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
3. Venting to a third party about a friend when you're annoyed at them.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. Take up your problems with your BFF directly, don't talk behind their back.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. All friendships have their problems, and the occasional venting session to someone else is healthy and natural.
  1. 4. Declining to do tedious tasks for a friend like driving them to the airport or helping them move.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
4. Declining to do tedious tasks for a friend like driving them to the airport or helping them move.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. Friends should always help each other out with that stuff.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. You don't owe your friends those things.
  1. 5. Bailing on plans you've already made with a friend because you don't feel like doing it anymore.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
5. Bailing on plans you've already made with a friend because you don't feel like doing it anymore.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. Once you've made the commitment, you should see it through.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable, as long as it doesn't happen too often.
  1. 6. Bailing on plans you've made with a friend to go on a first date.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
6. Bailing on plans you've made with a friend to go on a first date.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. If you've already made plans with a friend, stick to them.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. If there's a chance at romance or a hookup, you can occasionally bail on your friends!
  1. 7. Bailing on plans you've already made with a friend to hang out with your longtime significant other.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
7. Bailing on plans you've already made with a friend to hang out with your longtime significant other.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. You shouldn't bail on a friend to hang out with your SO.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. Relationships come first.
  1. 8. Staying friends with your BFF's ex after they break up. (Let's assume you met this ex through the BFF — it's not someone you knew before they started dating.)

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
8. Staying friends with your BFF's ex after they break up. (Let's assume you met this ex through the BFF — it's not someone you knew before they started dating.)
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. Once the breakup happens, you should steer clear of your BFF's ex.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. Just because they broke up, doesn't mean my friendships should be affected.
  1. 9. Going on a date with your BFF's ex after they break up.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
9. Going on a date with your BFF's ex after they break up.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. A friend's ex should always be off-limits for dating.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. They're broken up now, so who cares?
  1. 10. Proposing to your significant other at your friend's wedding.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
10. Proposing to your significant other at your friend's wedding.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. A wedding should be all about the couple getting married.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. A wedding should be a celebration of love!
  1. 11. Telling your friend you don't like their outfit.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
11. Telling your friend you don't like their outfit.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. It's rude and unnecessary.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. If my outfit looked weird, I'd want to know!
  1. 12. Texting back "Sorry, I just saw this!" when in reality you saw it hours ago.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
12. Texting back "Sorry, I just saw this!" when in reality you saw it hours ago.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. Don't lie about it.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. A little white lie can prevent hurt feelings.
  1. 13. Pretending you watched a video/read an article your friend sent you, when in reality you didn't bother.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
13. Pretending you watched a video/read an article your friend sent you, when in reality you didn't bother.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. Your friend sent you the link for a reason — you should check it out.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. Sometimes ya just don't care.
  1. 14. Never being the one to initiate a hangout.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
14. Never being the one to initiate a hangout.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. Both friends should make an effort to initiate plans.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. Friendships aren't always exactly equal, and if one friend is better at initiating plans, who cares?
  1. 15. Bringing your significant other to all your friend hangouts.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
15. Bringing your significant other to all your friend hangouts.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. You should be able to have hangouts that don't include the significant others.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. Once you're dating someone, attending social events is a package deal.
  1. 16. Frequently showing up late to plans.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
16. Frequently showing up late to plans.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. It's disrespectful to the other person's time.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. Some people are just chronically late to things, it doesn't mean they're a bad friend.
  1. 17. Not getting your friend a gift for their birthday.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
17. Not getting your friend a gift for their birthday.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. You should always get your friend a birthday gift!
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. Friends don't necessarily owe each other birthday gifts.
  1. 18. And finally, forgetting about your friend's birthday entirely.

    Getty Images
Oops. Something went wrong. Please try again later
Looks like we are having a problem on the server.
18. And finally, forgetting about your friend's birthday entirely.
  1.  
    vote votes
    That's a bad friend. Plain and simple.
  2.  
    vote votes
    That's reasonable. It's not ideal, but it happens.