19 Lessons You Should Stop Teaching Your Kid Immediately
"What to think instead of how to think."
Let's face it: Growing up, we all probably learned a lesson or two that, in retrospect, was actually pretty damaging.
The thread quickly went viral, as thousands of people started sharing the things we should stop telling kids. Here are some of the best responses:
1. "That adults are infallible. My wife and I freely admit to our kid if we've done something wrong or were mistaken, and try to teach him to behave the same. He's only 4 so it's hard because he's still learning the concept of fallibility, but I'm pretty sure it's helping."
2. "That asking questions is annoying or unacceptable. 'I don't know, let's find out together' is the most engaging possible answer you can give a curious child."
3. "To be ashamed when they're wrong. People should be thrilled to find out they're wrong because it's an opportunity to learn."
4. "That ugly = bad/evil. I partially blame TV animation for this one. Old, ugly, fat, or serious-looking people are almost always the villains. This makes kids fear elderly people and creates unfair connections between appearance and personality."
5. "That children should always do what they're told. If they're uncomfortable, or scared, or truly believe what they're being asked to do is wrong, they should be taught it's okay to stick up for themselves."
6. "Labeling food as purely 'good' or 'bad.' Forcing children to eat something they don’t want to. Sending the message that 'vegetables are gross' and are only to be enjoyed through bribery."
7. "Forcing children to ignore their own body telling them that they've had enough food by making them finish the too-large plate of food that you gave them."
8. "We should stop comparing our kids to other children, which is basically telling them they’re not good enough."
9. "That you should never hate anyone in your family. If a certain family member did you wrong, never repented, never apologized, never tried to make things right, would gladly fuck you over again, and has done so on multiple occasions, you should be free to detest him as much as you like."
10. "To 'just ignore them and they will stop.'"
11. "'Don't take no for answer.' Actually, this can have severe consequences down the road."
12. "That Wikipedia can never be trusted. Generally the information on it is very accurate, although it is a good idea to use other sources to confirm it. But that's true for everything."
13. "Telling them not to cry."
14. "Stranger danger. We need to let them know that it's not just strangers who can hurt them."
15. "That they're at school to study, not make friends. Friendships are important at any stage of life and you will definitely benefit from having connections in adulthood."
16. "That good things happen to good people, bad things happen to bad people, and that life is fair."
17. "That college is necessary for success. It’s not required...I know not every school does this, but since I was little I was told, 'The more schooling you get, the more money you’re worth.'"
18. "That they have to hug/kiss family members as a hello because it's 'polite.'"
19. "What to think instead of how to think."
So, what lessons do YOU think parents should stop teaching their kids? Share your thoughts in the comments.
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.