Hairdressers, barbers, and stylists are revealing all the things you should absolutely NOT do when getting a haircut — and there's a good chance you're guilty of a few of these.
It all started when a viral Reddit thread from user u/Pan_Beesly asked haircutters on the internet: "What are some helpful and unhelpful things that clients do when they come in for a haircut?"
Here are some of the most eye-opening responses from the pros:
1."Don’t ask me take an inch off all over, and then say, 'We can go from there if I want more.' That’s asking me to do two haircuts. Come on."
2."Don’t lie about the box color you’ve put in your hair (including henna) or products you use. The stylist WILL find out one way or another (like when your 'virgin' hair turns orange instead of yellow in foils) and it just makes it harder and more expensive to correct later on... We don’t care if you put box dye on your hair. We just need to know because the course of action will be different depending on your history."
5."Please don't keep your eyes open when washing. It's kinda awkward if you know someone is staring right up your nostrils."
6."Know what clipper number you get on the sides: #2, #4, etc. It's a lot easier for you to remember your number than it is for us to remember everyone’s. Please don’t say 'like last time' unless you know us well and come in very often. We do not remember."
7."Washing your hair first is important. If you can't, it's not the end of the world. Especially if it's a part of the service you are about to get. But a washed head puts the hair in its natural state and makes it so much easier to cut, and you'll get a better end result."
9."If your child either hates having his hair cut or moves a lot, don't expect a fantastic haircut. Have something in mind that isn't a lot of work. Tell the hairdresser/barber that they dislike having it done and ask for advice on what haircut can be done quick and easy."
10."Don't move your head with us. We move for a reason. Don't move your head unless we tell you to. Angles are very important. If you move while we are doing something, that angle is now wrong."
13."Please don’t talk with your head. It’s frustrating trying to keep the tension on the hair on a client who moves their head just as much as their mouth."
14."[When pulling up reference images for your stylist,] try to find images of hair similar to yours. If you have superthick curls, a pic of someone with fine straight hair won't do you any good... Also, if you like a cut on a model, cover his/her face with your finger and make sure you like the hair, not just the face."
17."Don't have unrealistic expectations. People want to go from dark brown to platinum in one session, have bright pink hair that never fades, or have amazing rainbow hair from a heavily filtered photo on Instagram."
18."Please be realistic when it comes to hair. Good hair isn't cheap and cheap hair isn't good. We need to work with what you have; and if you want the impossible, it's impossible. It's not about not being able to. It's being realistic. 'But she can go from red to blonde in a week!' No babe, that's a wig, and your hair won't make it."
21."My wife is a stylist. Her main complaint is when clients, mostly men but some women, start spouting their political beliefs for all to hear. It's as if they think when they sit down in that chair, all conversational etiquette gets thrown out the window and there are no consequences to what is said."
22."I have no problem talking about some more ‘controversial’ topics with clients who can discuss politely. But I do have to remember that there are other clients within earshot and I have to be appropriate for them, too. So just because my client and I are comfortable, I can’t get too into these topics because I could still get a complaint from my neighbor's client."
24."If we are done with a cut, please don't 'help' with removing the hair. You're not removing it; you are actually making it worse by patting it into your clothes, sticking it to your skin, and letting it fall into your shoes."
25."Be clear in what you want, and preferably already know what you want before you sit down in our chairs. Having the 'Do I want pink or do I want blonde? Oh I just don't know!' conversation is really annoying because it takes time we could use in a better way. And honestly, I'm down for both; and it's not my head so I'm not going to make that decision for you."
26."You don't have to talk. You don't have to be silent. Just know that we are stylists first and not necessarily therapists. If you tell me you are suicidal, I'm not equipped to help you with that. We can have a good chat. I can tell you about my struggles and you can tell me yours, but really talk to someone who actually knows how to help and deal with that. It can be a very hard thing for us to hear, too."
27."Please remember we are human. We have lives and families too, so sometimes we are a little less happy. It's not that we hate you; maybe we lost someone close to us or are going through a breakup. Working when you know that any moment now you'll get a call saying someone died is making it hard to be super cheery. We don't have to share those things."
28."Don’t blast off at the stylist who tried to 'up-sell' products. They hate it just as much as you do. Just be polite and say no if you don’t want it. They aren’t trying to spike up your bill. They have to follow selling guidelines; otherwise, they’ll get marks on their reports for not selling enough."
29."If they notice anything off about your hair (mostly lice or something very hazard-like), they have to deny service due to protocols. DO NOT scream at them and demand them to do it. They have to be careful with certain things that could possibly be transmitted home to their loved ones or other customers."
30."I was a barber for seven years. Every haircut must be faded. Please do not sit down and just ask for a 'fade.' And for the love of Christ, don’t ask us, 'Do you know how to fade?' The answer is yes and we will judge you."
31."Do NOT come to the stylist in a raging fit because your boyfriend hurt your feelings so now you’re going to cut your long hair into a pixie to show that you have control over your life. No matter how awesome it looks, you WILL hate it, you WILL cry, and you will HATE us for allowing you to do it. This is why stylists will always try to talk you down off that ledge, and many will offer a slower transition ('Let’s try a shoulder-length bob!') or refuse you completely. It’s not that we hate you. We want you to love us and come back; but if you hate your hair, you’ll hate us by extension."