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13 Extremely Controversial Dating Questions That Nobody Can Agree On

Cheaters, age gaps, student/teacher relationships, and more.

  1. 1. After doing some genealogical research, you find out that the person you've been dating is technically your third cousin. Can you keep dating?

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1. After doing some genealogical research, you find out that the person you've been dating is technically your third cousin. Can you keep dating?
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    Yes. If it's a super distant relation, and you've never known each other as family, it's not a big deal.
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    No, it doesn't matter how distant the relationship is, if you're related at all, you should end it.
  1. 2. You develop a huge crush on your new roommate. It seems like the attraction might be mutual, but you aren't sure. Should you ask the roommate out?

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2. You develop a huge crush on your new roommate. It seems like the attraction might be mutual, but you aren't sure. Should you ask the roommate out?
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    Yes. If it seems like the feeling is mutual, you might as well shoot your shot.
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    No. Too much can go wrong when you date a roommate. Keep it platonic.
  1. 3. Your ex cheated on you and broke your heart. Years later, they come to you with a sincere apology and a promise that they've changed. In all the time that's passed, neither of you fully got over each other. Should you give it a second chance?

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3. Your ex cheated on you and broke your heart. Years later, they come to you with a sincere apology and a promise that they've changed. In all the time that's passed, neither of you fully got over each other. Should you give it a second chance?
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    Yes. People can change. If you trust the person now, go for it.
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    No. They're your ex for a reason. Walk away.
  1. 4. Mike's mom just married Sarah's dad. Mike and Sarah, both grown adults, instantly hit it off at the wedding. They're technically step-siblings now, but they didn't grow up together. Can they date?

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4. Mike's mom just married Sarah's dad. Mike and Sarah, both grown adults, instantly hit it off at the wedding. They're technically step-siblings now, but they didn't grow up together. Can they date?
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    Sure. They're not blood-related, and they never knew each other as siblings. Why not?
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    No, it's just too weird. They're family now.
  1. 5. Let's talk about age differences. Is it weird for a 30-year-old to go on a date with a 20-year-old?

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5. Let's talk about age differences. Is it weird for a 30-year-old to go on a date with a 20-year-old?
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    Nothing weird about that. Age is just a number — the connection is what matters.
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    Yes, it's weird. That's totally creepy and a huge red flag.
  1. 6. Okay, same 10-year age difference, but now both people are older: Is it weird for a 40-year-old to go out with a 30-year-old?

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6. Okay, same 10-year age difference, but now both people are older: Is it weird for a 40-year-old to go out with a 30-year-old?
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    Nothing weird about that. The older you get, the less an age gap matters.
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    It's still weird to me. Ten years is a significant gap.
  1. 7. You have three incredible dates with a person and then they totally ghost you. A few months later, they reappear and apologize. They ask if you want to give it another shot. What do you say?

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7. You have three incredible dates with a person and then they totally ghost you. A few months later, they reappear and apologize. They ask if you want to give it another shot. What do you say?
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    Hell no. Ghosting someone like that is so fucked up. I could never look past it.
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    Sure, I'd try again. It's not a huge deal.
  1. 8. Is it ever okay for a boss to ask their employee out on a date?

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8. Is it ever okay for a boss to ask their employee out on a date?
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    Yes. As long as the boss is respectful and non-aggressive about it, there's no harm in asking.
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    No. The power imbalance is too significant. The employee might feel pressured to say yes.
  1. 9. What about coworkers who are peers? Is it okay to ask out someone you work with, assuming neither person is the other's boss?

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9. What about coworkers who are peers? Is it okay to ask out someone you work with, assuming neither person is the other's boss?
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    Yes, it's fine to ask a coworker out, as long as neither person wields institutional power over the other.
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    No, that's still not okay. The workplace should be off-limits for dating.
  1. 10. A high school teacher reconnects with a former student a year after graduation. The student is 19 now, and the teacher is 25. Can they date?

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10. A high school teacher reconnects with a former student a year after graduation. The student is 19 now, and the teacher is 25. Can they date?
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    Yes. They're no longer in a student/teacher dynamic, and they're both consenting adults. No harm in dating.
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    No. A teacher should not date former students, especially when only a year has passed.
  1. 11. Okay, same scenario, but fast forward a decade: A teacher reconnects with their student 10 years after graduation. The former student is now 28, and the teacher is 34. Can they date?

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11. Okay, same scenario, but fast forward a decade: A teacher reconnects with their student 10 years after graduation. The former student is now 28, and the teacher is 34. Can they date?
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    Yes. A lot of time has passed and they're close enough in age. No big deal if they date.
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    No. It's still weird. A teacher should never date a former student.
  1. 12. Many years ago, your friend dated Taylor. It ended amicably, and your friend is happily married to someone else. You and Taylor bump into each other at a bar. There are sparks. Can you date?

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12. Many years ago, your friend dated Taylor. It ended amicably, and your friend is happily married to someone else. You and Taylor bump into each other at a bar. There are sparks. Can you date?
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    Yes. If enough time has passed and everyone has moved on with their lives, it should be fine to date a friend's ex.
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    No, a friend's exes are off-limits forever, no exceptions.

And finally...

  1. 13. You and your best friend have been inseparable since childhood. It's the most important friendship in your life. But lately, you've been wondering if there might be a deeper connection between the two of you. Should you pursue it?

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13. You and your best friend have been inseparable since childhood. It's the most important friendship in your life. But lately, you've been wondering if there might be a deeper connection between the two of you. Should you pursue it?
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    Yes. If there's a chance this person could be The One, you should go for it.
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    No. It's not worth risking such an important friendship. Date other people!