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21 Ways To Orgasm Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger

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We asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us their best tips for achieving the perfect orgasm. Here are the life-changing results.

Obviously we're all different, and not all of these will work for everyone, so feel free to take what you want and leave the rest.

1. First thing's first: Make sure your mind is clear and relaxed.


"Your partner(s) could be doing all the right moves at all the right times, but if your mind isn't clear and cozy and happy and worry-free, you're not gonna get that orgasm."

—Katlyn Minard, Facebook

2. Pro tip: Placing a couple pillows under your hips will work wonders. It basically changes the angle of penetration.



3. Whether you're alone or not, experiment with edging.

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"Just as I'm about to come, I stop and cool down for, like, 10 seconds. Then I rub some more. I do this a few more times, and then when I finally do come it's INCREDIBLE. Delayed gratification, man."


4. Don't be afraid to let your partner use their tongue and fingers ~at the same time~.



5. Invest in some sex toys, like the Hitachi Magic Wand.

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6. Make sure your balls get enough attention.

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"The best orgasms for me are when my wife sucks my balls while I jack off."


7. Don't stick with just one position, or you'll have no idea what you're missing out on.

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"The only way I know I'll orgasm in minutes is if I'm on top. I'm more for penetration than clitoral stimulation."


8. Try masturbating at a constant speed to get a better buildup of tension.


9. Explore several different holes.


"Midway through sex, in missionary, he put his finger in my butt while he kept thrusting into me. Sounds weird, but it was the best orgasm of my life. Actually, I ended up having three."


10. Take a little "tolerance break" from masturbating or having sex.

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"Not masturbating or having sex for a week or two and then doing it is great and so much more effective."


11. Tease yourself by thinking about what turns you on during the day, and go wild at night.

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"Casually thinking about your turn-ons and watching porn (just watching, not masturbating) during the day will make for a fantastic night when you finally do the deed."


12. Reposition your bodies so you can multitask, using your hands AND mouths while also having sex.

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"I like to ride him while he sits up and leans against something. That way he's inside of me, has one hand to play with my clit, one hand to grab/smack my ass, and can suck on my tits all at the same time. The more stimulation I get, the better the orgasm!"


13. Experiment with a handheld shower head.

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"It'll make your legs weak, and you won't be able to form coherent words."


14. Penetration + fingers = magic.

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"My best orgasms ever were when my ex would finger me and rub my clit while inside me. Best sex ever!"


15. Two words: Intensifying. Lube.


"Trojan intensifying lube is mind-blowing."


16. Remember that two dicks are sometimes better than one.


"Or two toys, if you'd rather. Either way: Double penetration all the way, baby."


17. Get a curvy dildo.

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"My husband's penis has a slight curve to it, so it hits the G-spot often when I'm riding him."


18. When your body starts to tense up, try to relax your muscles as much as possible.


"This makes it easier to orgasm, and the orgasm will last longer."


19. Men, locate dat prostate.

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"Massage your prostate — whether that's with your hands, someone else's, or toys — 'cause it's a nerve center, and when it's stimulated it can lead to insane orgasms."

—Jon Paul, Facebook

20. If you're getting close, make sure your partner doesn't change their rhythm.

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"Don't start going faster because you think it'll help. Keep the same rhythm! I can't stress this enough."


21. And, of course, if you like something when it's happening... tell them!

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"Being vocal is key. If you go down on me and I can truly feel that you enjoy it too, or you tell me that you do, I melt."


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