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    26 Sex Tips You'll Probably Wish You Knew About Sooner

    You can never have too much lube, tbh.

    Throughout the years, we've asked the BuzzFeed Community for their best tips, tricks, and hacks when it comes to sex. Here are the enlightening responses.

    Note: Everyone's bodies, interests, and experiences are different, so not all of these will apply to you. Feel free to take what you want and leave the rest. Just make sure you communicate with your partner(s) and always have consent.

    1. If you struggle with giving blow jobs or deep-throating, try making a fist and squeezing down on your thumb to help keep you from gagging.

    2. Understand that you can never have too much lube.

    3. ...And when I say lube, I mean just lube. Don't use soap if you're having shower sex, people!

    4. Try to remember that sex doesn't have to involve penetration.

    5. If you're partaking in your first orgy, keep in mind that it'll never be like what you see in porn, so don't stress if yours turns out differently.

    6. Don't stick with just one position, or you'll have no idea what you're missing out on.

    7. Try to make noise – like moaning or humming – while going down on your partner. This will make your vocal cords vibrate (it's sort of like having a vibrator built into your throat).

    8. If you're going down on someone, try it with an ice cube in your mouth.

    9. ...Or try doing it with a mouth full of something bubbly to help provide extra sensation.

    10. Shit ~literally~ happens sometimes, but don't let it discourage you from getting intimate with someone.

    11. If something is working, keep going! Don't stop what you're doing or change up your technique.

    12. Understand that bodies make weird noises and smells, but it happens to everyone, so there's no need to be embarrassed.

    13. Keep an open mind about kinky stuff – you may discover something new that reallllly turns you on.

    14. Having an orgasm should not be your goal.

    15. Understand that butt stuff can be for everyone, no matter your gender or sexuality.

    16. But also understand that you might not like certain things in the bedroom, and that's totally cool, too! Do *not* feel weird or guilty about it.

    17. Drink some juice before going down on someone. The low pH levels will help you produce more saliva (the wetter, the better).

    18. Don't. Skip. Foreplay.

    19. If you have a vagina, make sure you pee after having penetrative sex.

    20. Try experimenting with the right toys (yes, there are sometimes ~wrong~ toys), whether you're alone or with other people.

    21. If you're feeling left out while partaking in a threesome, foursome, or orgy, make sure you communicate that. After all, you're in charge of your own experience.

    22. Always know your STD status and the statuses of those who you're hooking up with.

    23. Stimulation overload can totally occur, and it's not always fun, so don't hesitate to take a break if you need one.

    24. Be open to trying new things, but don't do something you're not comfortable with.

    25. If you like something while it's happening, tell them!

    26. And even though sex can be a very serious thing, it shouldn't ~always~ be serious. Make sure you relax and have fun with it!