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    26 Sex Tips You'll Probably Wish You Knew About Sooner

    You can never have too much lube, tbh.

    Throughout the years, we've asked the BuzzFeed Community for their best tips, tricks, and hacks when it comes to sex. Here are the enlightening responses.

    Note: Everyone's bodies, interests, and experiences are different, so not all of these will apply to you. Feel free to take what you want and leave the rest. Just make sure you communicate with your partner(s) and always have consent.

    1. If you struggle with giving blow jobs or deep-throating, try making a fist and squeezing down on your thumb to help keep you from gagging.

    Lara Parker / BuzzFeed

    "A little hack if you have a gag reflex is to just squeeze/press down your thumb with the rest of your fingers. It stops you from gagging and choking."


    2. Understand that you can never have too much lube.

    Jennifer Lopez VEVO

    "Lube. For the love of god, don't be afraid to buy lube. It will make that one position soooooo much better." —Emma Matlock, Facebook

    "Think you've used enough lube? You're wrong! Use more lube!!!" —genee49

    3. ...And when I say lube, I mean just lube. Don't use soap if you're having shower sex, people!


    "We tried using soap as lube once in the shower, and I passed out. The year was 1981. I will never forget it." —Alan Brady, Facebook

    "Don't use soap, and never use baby oil as lube. It may feel good at first, but holy moly it will burn after!!!!" —bmulgad

    4. Try to remember that sex doesn't have to involve penetration.

    Zak Tebbal / BuzzFeed /

    "If you do not enjoy penetration for whatever reason, don't feel like you can't still have enjoyable sex and/or satisfy your partner(s)! There are sooooo many other things you can do that don't involve any penetration and will still make everyone happy." —nny909

    "If sex is only fun when you do oral or hand stuff or just kissing or whatever, then don't make yourself do anything else! Just do the fun stuff. Sex shouldn't be work." —priyah2

    5. If you're partaking in your first orgy, keep in mind that it'll never be like what you see in porn, so don't stress if yours turns out differently.


    "This is true for sex with just one other person, but it's especially true for orgies. Most of the time, 75% of the group is confused."


    6. Don't stick with just one position, or you'll have no idea what you're missing out on.

    Six Entertainment

    "The only way I know I'll orgasm in minutes is if I'm on top. I'm more for penetration than clitoral stimulation."


    7. Try to make noise – like moaning or humming – while going down on your partner. This will make your vocal cords vibrate (it's sort of like having a vibrator built into your throat).

    Young Money

    "Hey, there's a reason porn stars make moaning noises when they give head. Making your vocal cords vibrate will provide them extra sensation."


    8. If you're going down on someone, try it with an ice cube in your mouth.

    Paramount Pictures

    "One night I had a glass of ice put off to the side. My boyfriend at the time didn't think anything of it. As I was about to give him head, I popped a small ice cube into my mouth. He didn't expect it whatsoever, which was my favorite part. He loved it, and throughout our relationship I did that every now and then to spice up the foreplay."


    9. ...Or try doing it with a mouth full of something bubbly to help provide extra sensation.

    Columbia Pictures

    "Never underestimate a mouthful of champagne or soda (anything carbonated, really) while giving oral sex to a person with a penis. Just remember to breathe through your nose!" —bostonafrorican

    "You can do it with basically any cold, fizzy drink (I prefer Dr. Pepper, but champagne is great, too). Take a little sip and then carefully put the penis in your mouth. Press your tongue up against that sensitive spot right below the head, and let the bubbles tickle it for a moment before you swallow your drink with the penis still in your mouth." —lauriewilsonm

    10. Shit ~literally~ happens sometimes, but don't let it discourage you from getting intimate with someone.

    Sony Pictures Classics / Columbia Pictures

    "Even if you love anal, know how to prepare, and do everything you can to be ready for it. Your ass will always decide if now is the time to play 'do I have to shit or not?' And sometimes even if you do prepare, shit still happens. That's okay too! Everyone poops, so there's nothing to be embarrassed about."

    —Rachel Glenn, Facebook

    11. If something is working, keep going! Don't stop what you're doing or change up your technique.


    "If she says she's close, don't stop what you're doing. She's getting close for a reason, because what you're doing is working for her. Changing up your technique in the middle of an orgasm can stop the whole thing."


    12. Understand that bodies make weird noises and smells, but it happens to everyone, so there's no need to be embarrassed.


    "Queefs, cramps, and weird smells happen. Don't get mortified – it's not worth it. Sometimes embarrassing or silly things happen. Enjoy the ridiculousness of it. Usually the other person wants to laugh about it WITH you because they think it's cute and they like you even more for it."


    13. Keep an open mind about kinky stuff – you may discover something new that reallllly turns you on.

    Universal Pictures

    "Some things may sound weird or unpleasant or even awful, but sometimes stepping out of your comfort zone can be so worth it, and you may find something that pushes all the right buttons." —jennig41

    "It's all about experimentation. Find out what your partner enjoys and what they don't. It's okay to come right out and ask. It's also okay to figure out along the way. But don't hold back — don't be afraid to show off those quirky sex things you've always wanted to try. A partner who you work well with will understand and probably show you a thing or two you didn't think you could like." —Bailey Parenteau, Facebook

    14. Having an orgasm should not be your goal.

    Universal Pictures

    "The first time my ex and I had sex, he assured me that there was no pressure to have an orgasm on his side or my side. I loved how at ease that put me and how easy it was to tell him about what I liked or didn't like. This whole idea of not 100% focusing on achieving an orgasm allowed us to really focus on pleasure, which completely changes the experience."


    15. Understand that butt stuff can be for everyone, no matter your gender or sexuality.


    "The butt is such a taboo part of the body, but why should it be? I'm glad I got over my insecurities and explored this area of my sex life. It brings my partner and me both extreme pleasure, and that's a beautiful thing."


    16. But also understand that you might not like certain things in the bedroom, and that's totally cool, too! Do *not* feel weird or guilty about it.

    Paramount Pictures

    "I wish I had known I wouldn't like anal sex and that I didn't have to feel guilty about it. Some people just don't like it and never will and no amount of lube in the world will change that and that's perfectly okay."


    17. Drink some juice before going down on someone. The low pH levels will help you produce more saliva (the wetter, the better).

    Universal Pictures

    "The best trick I ever learned was to drink grapefruit juice, orange juice, or basically anything acidic. The low pH level causes most people to salivate like wild, which is always good when you're going down on someone."


    18. Don't. Skip. Foreplay.

    New Line Cinema

    "You'll feel more relaxed, and your whole body will have had time to get into sex-mode." —giulianam419

    "Foreplay honestly makes EVERYTHING feel even better. Also, rushing into things is never good. Your body needs time to get used things." —sakura0101

    19. If you have a vagina, make sure you pee after having penetrative sex.

    NBC / CityTV

    "You should always pee after. ALWAYS. UTIs are not fun!" —alexismaureenl

    "And, in general, just wash up down there! I could have saved myself from countless UTIs had we washed up before/after down there." —kaitlynnicolew

    20. Try experimenting with the right toys (yes, there are sometimes ~wrong~ toys), whether you're alone or with other people.

    Varsity Pictures

    "Be careful which toys you use. My fiancé put a vibrator in my butt while we were doing vaginal doggy and the vibrator FELL INTO MY BUTT. Like, my butt swallowed the vibrator whole. We spent 10 minutes trying to pull it out before finally doing it successfully."

    —Sydney LeDonne, Facebook

    21. If you're feeling left out while partaking in a threesome, foursome, or orgy, make sure you communicate that. After all, you're in charge of your own experience.


    "I was part of a polyamorous relationship with four other core people, and occasionally others, so just remember that communication is key."


    22. Always know your STD status and the statuses of those who you're hooking up with.

    Wild Bunch

    "This is sooooo important and should go without saying, but I'm saying it just in case!"


    23. Stimulation overload can totally occur, and it's not always fun, so don't hesitate to take a break if you need one.

    Universal Pictures

    "I went to a swinger’s party as a single lady earlier this year and learned this, but it can also happen when you're just with one other person."


    24. Be open to trying new things, but don't do something you're not comfortable with.

    Red Wagon Entertainment

    "If you don't want to be double-penetrated or jerked off or kissed, say so."


    25. If you like something while it's happening, tell them!


    "Always try to tell each other what you do/don't like while it's happening, because that'll make things more enjoyable in the long run. Nothing is sexier than someone telling you that you're doing a great job, whether by moaning, pulling hair, dirty talk, or keeping your head on a particular spot for an extended amount of time." —elizabethhubka

    "Being vocal is key. If you're going down on me and I can truly sense that you enjoy it too (or if you tell me that you do), I melt." —c40f0

    26. And even though sex can be a very serious thing, it shouldn't ~always~ be serious. Make sure you relax and have fun with it!

    Sony Pictures Classics

    "Sex is funny. It's awkward. It's let's-get-naked-and-bump-our-gross-bodies-together. Weird things happen. Weird noises, wet spots, falling off the bed, and don't even get me started on having a dog in the room with you! The best sex I've ever had was when we could laugh at each other and the situation. Sex doesn't have to be so serious! Laugh at each other, have fun with each other, and make sure your partner is taken care of."