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    23 Aug 2016

    This Woman’s Quora Answer About Being Lesbian In India Is Resonating With Thousands

    "The other day my girlfriend wanted to kiss me. I told her to wait for years."

    India has criminalised homosexuality according to Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, and the LGBT community has constantly spoken up against the oppressive nature of the law.

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    A Quora user recently asked:

    User Anamika Pareek wrote a heartfelt response to the question:

    "Our life would have been much easier had people accepted us. Since they don't, so our life revolves around pretending and hiding.

    Life gets complicated somehow. Especially if we go away from our home for further studies and share room with just another girl. It's easy to hide for some time but can't hide it all the time. If not everyone then your roommate surely will get some hint. Though we don't fall for every other girl, there are things which make us uncomfortable, and that's the grey area where we find it difficult to hide. But then the problem is we can't control it plus if we confess it then it will leave others uncomfortable around us. Like, the other day my room mate was asking me if her nipples were visible in the top she was wearing. I looked and told her no. But when I said this, I had a smile on my face which I could not control. Now this question was normal that two girls can ask each other but, you tell me. Will she ask the same question the moment she gets to know that I'm a lesbian?

    This was just a minute example that I gave but there are many things which makes us uncomfortable and people think that either we are weird or insane to smile for no specific reason.

    The reason we have to hide and pretend all the time is that society will hate us. The only reason we live in depression most of the times and have suicidal thoughts are that we can't tell anyone and not everyone is courageous to come out and face the trouble.


    The other day my girlfriend wanted to kiss me. I told her to wait for like years till we start living together because if anyone see us, we will be in jail. Though I consoled her, but here "living together" looks like a distant dream when my parents are worried about getting me married (obviously with a boy). They have no clue about anything.

    Accepting the fact that there exists people of different genre can make our lives much more easy. Till then we are hiding and pretending to be straight. The problem is this mask can't be affixed permanently."

    The answer resonated with a lot of other users, and immediately became the most upvoted answer on the thread.

    BuzzFeed has reached out to Pareek for a comment and is awaiting a response.

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