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We Asked People To Draw Where They Are On The Kinsey Scale And It Was Pure Art

"I'm a 3 dressed up as a 1."

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We asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to illustrate where they fall on The Kinsey Scale, because sexuality is wildly confusing and interesting and fun.

Note: The Kinsey Scale clearly does not address all possible sexual identities (the “purple-red” scale of attraction is another way to map out the sexual spectrum). It's also constructed to only reflect two possible genders — so yeah, it’s not perfect.


3. And maybe there was "that one night":

"Before grade 10, I was unfortunately extremely self-homophobic. I was fine with queer people on the whole, but horrified that I might be one myself. My best friend kissed me and everything changed. In fact, five years later, my (female) fianceé just asked me to marry her! So, I guess you could say I'm a hard 6."


6. Some proudly represented their asexual and aromantic identities:

"I mostly thought I was strictly heterosexual, but just a 'late bloomer.' Then I realized I had no real interest in sex, so I identify as aromantic asexual."



8. And bisexual folks marked their places proudly:

"I knew I was bisexual early on, around the age of 14, but I was a lot more attracted to boys for a long time. At 19, I found myself finding more and more women attractive — more so than men. When I got older all I could think about was being with a woman, whilst being with a man at the time. So in short, I move around but I’ll always be bi. Women are too nice."


9. If only your younger self could see you now:

"I come from a conservative, religious, and fairly homophobic family — that really skewed my views on sexuality as I was growing up. My younger self would be pretty surprised at where I am now, but my current self is SO DAMN HAPPY with my life and who I am."



13. Some people pointed out that romantic and sexual feelings can be totally separate:

"As an ace lesbian, I don’t exactly fall on the Kinsey scale. As unconventional as my identity might be, it shaped my life and experiences and I wouldn’t trade it for any other."



16. Sometimes the world sees you as one thing, but you're really another:

"I identify as bisexual and land somewhere between a 4 and a 5. Since I can present as straight, that’s what the world tends to see in me. When I actually tell people I’m bi, they think it’s exactly 50/50 because no one knows about the spectrum! But then there are days I wish I was completely gay, because I think it’d almost be easier."


18. Or maybe your number sort of depends on who you're around or where you are:

"I have been up and down this scale over and over through my entire life. Some days I’m straight as anything, others I’m gay as balls. I’m 29 and I came out as bisexual last year. I’m quite comfortable with that, but I generally just refer to myself a big queer mess because it covers everything."



20. One thing's for sure — it can be confusing.

"I jumped from one extreme to the other, tried to find my place. It has been a journey, but I’m here! Preferences are okay, whichever way that preference is — it took me a while to accept that and feel comfortable with that. Bisexuality is valid in all its forms, and I love how I identify."


21. After all, you're constantly learning about yourself:

"In high school I genuinely believed that I was pretty straight, but I found that dating guys wasn’t as interesting to me as it was to my friends. I met a girl who I fell head over heels for, but I was too scared and unsure of my sexuality to tell her how I felt. Then, as I got older and more self confident, I became sure that men don’t interest me as much as women — and yet I'd still happily sleep with one. So here I am, pretty gay, but also a little straight, it may change but who cares I’m happy and that’s what matters."



At the end of the day, however you identify, it's nobody's choice but your own.

Responses have been edited for length and clarity.